reduced movement

[Hopex3]

hi all,

I'm actually in tears I'm so stressed about this right now. I have already been in for reduced movements 3 times and I'm only 28 +6. placenta is anterior so they said I will probs end up having to go in again at some point but I literally only went in on Thursday then had a growth scan Friday. all was fine but I haven't really felt her move again today bar the odd squirm but no proper thumps if you get what I mean. my questions are how many times did you go in with reduced movement? secondly what, if anything, will they do if I continue to have to go in? I have my own straps for the trace machine at this point, my anxiety over this is really starting to get out of proportion :( x

I'm happy to say I have felt her a few times since I've had dinner which has helped settled my mind. I will continue to keep an eye on it but I think it's my anxiety I need to combat now as once I have it in my head to go and get checked it's very difficult to talk myself down even tho on a normal day now I've felt the movement I have I wouldn't of been concerned. thanks for the advice etc. every day at a time I suppose! x

I spoke to a mental health midwife who was excellent. She referred me for CBT which helped my anxiety enormously. You should very similar to me and it could be helpful for you too xxx

@Hopex3 definitely speak to your midwife about your anxiety, there is lots of help available which your midwife can help you access. You don't have to struggle with it on your own.

thank you, its definitely been a huge issue for me during this. I suffered with it before but this is a whole new level - it affects my work as well as I just want to be at home 'keeping an eye on things' I see her next week so will mention how bad it has been recently xx

I’ve suffered with movement anxiety too. It’s drummed Into us so much about what to look out for and how many kicks etc when really every single woman/baby is completely different! And also when you do have an anterior placenta that has an impact too. I’m 39 weeks and have been in once for RM at around 28 weeks and would of gone in more if it wasn’t for the fact that I’ve had scans since 20 weeks because of my BMI. I’ve now come to realise my baby even now has the same pattern. I’ll wake up in the morning and feel a few flutters, and it’s not until lunch time where I’ve started eating and drinking that I get more strong and noticeable movements and then a slightly lul in the afternoon and then again we get stronger movement until the evening then. I still worry now and imagine it will continue when he’s here as well 😘❤️ Hopefully it will get better as baby gets bigger my lovely - just wanted to say I know how you feel xx

@Babycakes1989 thank you, its nice to know not the only person who has felt like this although sorry you experienced it too! It's so nervy, I kept thinking I'd feel better after hitting this milestone then that but my anxiety just attaches itself to some other thing and off we go. I'm only recently started to calm down a bit about things like listeria and toxoplasmosis but I'm sure that'll be back in my mind again at some point :( will def have a chat with the midwife when I next see her. ah you haven't got long to go now how exciting! xx

Hi, I completely understand the anxiety, Im 32 weeks tomorrow and was awake from 2am this morning crying because she wasn't moving at all, it took every trick in the book to get some kicks out of her. My technique for counting is to lie on left side and time how long it takes her to get to 10 movements which is usually about 10 minutes, once I'd woken her up and got to my 10 in 10 mins i finally fell back to sleep at about 5am. It never occurred to me that I'm not normally awake at that time to feel her and so she mightve just been asleep and my panic was made worse by my partner being on nights and my 3 Yr old being fast asleep and so i felt helpless. She's made up for it this morning (probably because she was peed off that I woke her up so early).
My paranoia comes from my son being born at 30 Weeks after I went into hospital for ONE single episode of reduced movement. There were other issues, he'd stopped growing and my water level was on the low side. However, it only took the one time for them to act and bring him out by emcs. What I'm trying to say is that you should NEVER feel bad for going in to be checked out because it only takes one time of ignoring it for something to potentially go wrong (obviously 99% of the time things are fine) but if i hadnt gone in on that first and only episode, they said it couldve been a very different story. They would rather send you home 100 times with everything being fine than have you there under other circumstances. Trust your instincts! Mama knows best!