How to tell sister to back off

[Pinkflower23]

Hi,

I’m 26 weeks pregnant and my sister is telling me how to raise and look after my child before it’s even born! To the point I’m trying to avoid her. Telling what to buy and I did this and I did that. You need to do this when she’s born and you need to do that. This will happen in your labor and that will happen. I literally can’t stand it anymore. She does on like she’s mother of the year and has raised 5 kids. ( don’t get me wrong she’s a good mom)
And In my opinion, women have been give birth for thousands of years, I’m sure I will work it out for myself. Yes if I ask for help that’s fine! But she’s treating me like I’m a 16 year old that is clueless.
Yesterday I went to lidi and brought a pack of size 1 nappies to see what they were like. I told her and instantly she’s down the phone saying there going to be too big !!! How does she know the size of the baby I’m going to pop out ! Size 1 is the smallest they do! 4-11 pounds so I’m assuming the equivalent to say a 0 In day huggies.

And u know if there big there big! What do I do !!! Go and buy some smaller ones! She’s doing on like it’s all rocket science. I know it won’t be easy but how do I tell her to back off without offending her or pushing her away completely. I’m just avoiding all baby talk atm and pretending that I haven’t being buying certain things that I know she will have an opinion on.

Thanks

“I’d really like to learn all of this on my own, it’s exciting having your first baby as I’m sure you can remember. As soon as I need some advice I’ll give you a shout”

I loved listening to everyone telling me about their pregnancies and babies when I was pregnant. But none of my friends or family had children it was people at work mostly who loved to go on and on about babies all day. I suppose it is different when it is friends and family.

Agreed. Brother and sil have started to tell me how difficult things are post-baby presumably to explain away their lack of organisational / forward thinking / planning skills on a recent break together. However, DH and I are naturally more organised and while I know there will be many challenges forgetting feed times / nappies / travelling inappropriately due to last minute packing will not be part of them.

I haven’t told my sister for precisely this reason. I don’t want the stress. She was already obsessed with babies and teased me about my fertility prior to getting pregnant. She would constantly bring up her ‘birth story’ and behaved like a smug mother. She recently said “when you have a baby, just give it to me and I’ll look after it”.

Absolutely bat-shit crazy.

Constantly bringing it up in conversation, sometimes she’ll just be in the kitchen and then say “when you have a baby you won’t cope - you WON’T cope! And I’m going to laugh”.

As a side note, it’s her that brings up the topic every single time.

It’s exhausting. I pointed out how unreasonable she was being. It doesn’t make a difference.

@meccacos2
I didn’t tell her I was pregnant until 20 weeks and she hated it. It was all why didn’t u tell everyone earlier. I had a lot of false alarms at the beginning. A bleed, then came back high risk from the combined test resulting in me having CVS. All the testing came back clear and testing was finished by the time I was 15 weeks but used all of that as my excuse for delayed announcement. Even then she had something to say about the testing as when she was pregnant she declined all testing. So again stood there questioning me what I would have done if something came back from the tests. Secretly I had announced my pregnancy to every one at work and friends before anyone in my family because I knew all of this was coming. It’s sad in a way as you would think family would be the first to know.

Im avoiding my sister for precisely this reason. Over bearing, over involved and mine is not what I'd percieve to be a good person never mind mother.

I found losing my temper with her worked wonders.... She's now avoiding me until I "pull my naive little head it of my ass and grow up".

Ah Families...