Letting friend know I'm pregnant

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I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow, all being well I'll then feel ok to let people know.
I'm just conscious about a friend I have at work, I think a lot of her and wouldn't want to upset her so want some advice as to how to go about it..
She can't have children and although she deals with it with flippant/ taking the mick remarks I'd imagine this is to cope and that actually it's hard for her to not have the choice either way, I may be wrong of course and she doesn't give two hoots but not knowing how she really feels means I want to be cautious.
So I guess my question is do I message her today to say in some way about my appointment tomorrow or would that make it worse to single her out in being told or do I just get back from my scan to work tomorrow and when asked where I've been to I just say then and not make a big thing of it as it's just telling everyone?

I'd probably want to know by message, so that I could digest it in private.

But everyone is different, it's lovely that you've been so thoughtful about it - maybe whatever you decide to do explain that you don't know which is the right answer and didn't want to be insensitive

I always appreciated being told by text, rather than by face to face. It means you can manage your emotions in private, and have a little cry, if needed, and then get your game face on for the sincere congratulations. Congrats, by the way!

I would text in advance "hi heads up that I have a pregnancy scan tomorrow and all being well my pregnancy will be common knowledge."

Thank you all for the feedback, I think I'll do as you've advised and send a text today I wasn't sure if that would make her feel singled out but I can see how having some time to digest it will be kinder.
Thanks again!

I’m in the same position with two of my good friends.
Both have confided in me about their struggles and how they feel when people around them seem to get pregnant so easily so I am very nervous of breaking the news.

@Woodlandwitch I felt sick this morning before I sent the message but I'm relieved I did. She's been great about it, I hope it hasn't upset her, if it has I'm glad she has time privately to deal with it and I'm glad I asked for advice, hope it goes ok for you when it comes to telling your friends also it's a hard one all round but obviously harder for our friends