HELP! Alcohol & drugs before I knew I was pregnant

[jobojangles]

Last year I had a miscarriage & have been ttc ever since but recently began to give up hope as it was taking over our lives. Had the most amazing news this week that I am pregnant (approx 8.5 weeks) but am terrified as I have done something so stupid. Last weekend hubby & I went to a party & I got drunk, smoked & took a small of mdma. This is not something I do often, not in well over a year. We barely go out, but last weekend was a proper blow out. Obviously if I knew there was any chance of me been pregnant I would never have gone out or done any of this. But it’s happened now & I’m sick with worry. Has anyone else been in a similar situation with a positive outcome? I’m reading all sorts of horror stories online & I’m in a mess, I hate myself. My periods never came back to normal after miscarriage which is why I didn’t know. Obviously I won’t touch anything ever again but fear it’s too late now & I’ve damaged my baby.

I had something similar happen with my first pregnancy. I went to my GP and was completely honest with him about what I had been up to before my positive pregnancy test. His exact words to me were "the world and its dog have done things they shouldn't have technically done before realising they were pregnant. Do not worry! Don't stress yourself about something you couldn't possibly have known about" he also said something about how it's not possible at that early stage to pass things on to the little seed and put me at ease completely about it. So don't worry, it happens all the time.

I went on to have a very healthy pregnancy and now have a thriving 4 year old :-)

Xxx

But you have actively been TTC? And still took drugs?

Thank you Emmlou for taking the time to reply, that's reassuring to read. I'm still so worried though. I fee terrible.

Yes peachy, but as stated in my post we had begun to give up hope. I know what I have done is wrong. It's not something I do regularly, I hardly go out & never drink at home. believe me, you can't make me feel any worse than I do already.

@jobojangles I have a friend who didn't know she was pregnant until about 5-6 months (she wasn't showing and had irregular periods) she'd been out drinking partying drugs etc the whole time. Baby was totally fine and is now a very lovely healthy 4 yr old

@jobojangles I would recommend going to speak to your GP or talk to your midwife at your booking in appointment. They would have heard it before and they will be able to hopefully give you the reassurance you need. Don't beat yourself up, we all had lives before becoming pregnant. None of us were saints! Xx

he also said something about how it's not possible at that early stage to pass things on to the little seed and put me at ease completely about it.

I thought this was the case as well - doesn't the placenta take over at about 12 weeks?

Congrats OP - it's at such an early stage, I'm sure everything is fine

@tacosplease Thank you & everyone else for replying. Is that right about the placenta at 12 weeks? I keep reading on the internet how alcohol & drugs in the first 9 weeks can effect development. It doesn't state how much though? I don't know if this applies to people who drink & take drugs on a regular basis? Or as a one off like myself?

I'm so happy to be pregnant but this has taken away from it as I'm so worried Obviously if I thought there was any chance I'd be pregnant, I'd have never have gone out or done any of this.

I read somewhere that there's not enough research into the impact of alcohol and drug use in early pregnancy (for obvious reasons) so they advise against it. But yep the placenta hasn't taken over at that point to pass it onto their bloodstream. My first was a complete surprise and I was up to all sorts - was a bit of a raver in those days, long behind me now haha- before realising I was pregnant and as I said before - I had a perfectly healthy baby. Stop reading on the internet, in my experience it only scares you more and try to relax. You aren't the first for this to happen to and won't be the last. Not long to wait until that 12 week scan where I'm sure you will find out everything is on track. The first few weeks are worrying until you see that baby, I know xxx

@emmyloucuddles Thank you so much. It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one. I will try to keep off the google horror stories! Just can't believe the one time I go out & I'm pregnant! Thanks again for taking time to reply to me I'll keep you posted xx

@jobojangles did you have your scan hun? How are things x