Partner stepping up to be dad

[Mumtobe1991]

So without going. Into the ins and outs my partner is going to be taking the baby I am carrying as his own although it might be someone else’s.

It has been decided that he will be dad and all parties involved are happy with this arrangement.

Anyway, he has just been talking to the bump and call himself by his name and not dad as what he will be. I didn’t say anything but I think he can tell I’m a little upset as he’s been really nice and attentive.

I don’t know if it was a slip of the tongue or if he feels weird about calling himself dad. What should I do? Should I ask him or let it lie?

Hes a lovey generous man and I’m so lucky to have him but equally I don’t want him to resent my child and have him hate himself for feeling any resentment nor do I want him to be unhappy.

Don't read too much into it. He sounds like a remarkable guy. To be honest, if he's not ready to call himself dad yet, that would be understandable. Give him time and space while he gets his head round whatever it is that's led to this situation. That he's talking to the baby in the womb is surely a great sign.

In the meantime when you talk to the baby and he's there, refer to him to the baby as 'your daddy'

It’s all new to him it will take time. Bit different but when I first got married I found it really hard to refer to myself as a ‘wife’. It seems silly now but I could barely utter the words! I just said partner instead.

I was thinking about doing that but I don’t want to force it on him or make him feel like he’s backed into an corner.

Yes he is a remarkable man

Hopefully he will come around. I just asked him if he’s okay and he said yes and asked him if there’s anything he wants to talk about and he’s said no.
I might be over thinking it

Lovely that he talks to the bump my husband wouldn’t , I held his ha d to feel the baby kick and he didn’t like it ... but he is a wonderful dad to our 9 month
, I don’t think it is as real for the men until they get to hold them give him time x