11 weeks pregnant and worried about another miscarriage

[Hope1408]

Worried and looking for some advised. been trying for a baby for 2 years, I have had two miscarriages so far, one in 2018 and one in Jan 2019 both ending between 5-6 weeks. I am currently 11 weeks 2 days today I have my 12 week scan on Monday 16-09 I know its not that far away but seems like forever away to me. I have seen the heartbeat 3 times, 2 at private scans and 1 in hospital because I have Hyperemesis gravidarum. So i have seen the heartbeat at 7 weeks, and then again at 7 weeks and 4 days then again at 8 weeks and 6 days. So i got admitted into hospital overnight at 7 weeks 3 days because i have Hyperemesis gravidarum they given me Cyclzine which i only take once a day and i dont feel sick anymore. My boobs hurt for a week at week 5 but haven't hurt since. I get the odd cramp or sharp pain that's is about it. This week at week 11 i have started getting a few little headaches and bad wind . I am tired but i was a sleepy person before i got pregnant but i am going to bed even earlier at 8 o'clock now. I had discharge but its seeming to be less this week still there but definitely less than previous weeks. Apart from feeling tired, the occasional cramp and headache I have not many pregnancy symptoms. I feel 'normal' and i have done since week 8 from taking the cyclzine. Hence the private scan at 8 weeks 6 days because i was panicking. I cant afford anymore scans and as the week go on i feel more and more worried about a missed miscarriage i have never had a MMC but i am a googler and have read other peoples stories about going to the 12 week scan and finding out they had a missed miscarriage MMC. My midwife is not the best she takes days to reply and i feel like i have bugged my doctors way to much as it is. Just wanting to know other peoples stories about having 2 early miscarriages and pregnant again for the third time. I feel like such a worry pot but i cant help but be scared, concerned and worried all of the time. I really wish i could just enjoy the pregnancy and relax but the worry take over every time. I seen my little beautiful baby and heartbeat on the screen then i am okay to 2 days then worry again until the next scan.

I've had 3 miscarriages at 11,12 and 6 weeks. I've also had 2 babies and currently 31 weeks pregnant with 3. Honestly I don't think the worry ever goes away it's an incredibly anxious time when you've had a loss previously. I pretty much go to every scan and hold my breath out of fear something is wrong.

I never have any symptoms at all which makes it worse because I don't ever "feel"
Pregnant during the first trimester (apart from being dead tired allllll the time) I known it's really hard to do when you've suffered losses but please step back from google and just remember you've seen a little baby with a heartbeat. Fingers crossed your 12 week scan is all ok

Also I know midwifes can be hard to get hold of but at your next appointment ask about some extra support for the anxiety. I had some last pregnancy and it was really useful

Bless you❤️ You been through a lot so he anxiety part is completely normal! But just remember that your thoughts can’t hurt you or become reality. I had a mmc last year and I’m now 38 weeks pregnant again. I had very little symptoms with the mmc and again with this healthy pregnancy! Some people get them strong and some don’t so please don’t worry ❤️ Also mmc are so uncommon. Stay positive! I remember sitting in the waiting room for my scan for 12 weeks for this pregnancy and my nerves slightly subsiding as I say with other couples and watched loads of them come out with good news holding their pictures - you have every chance too!! Throughout this pregnancy I have worried about EVERYTHING literally everything and I don’t think I’ll stop until he is in my arms and then I’ll keep on worrying 😂 I wish you all the best of luck you deserve this 💐 keep us updated 😘 xxxx

@Mintypea5ore thank you for your message. and i am so sorry for your losses. Congratulations on your pregnancy and your 2 babies.

I really wish i could step back from google. the more i learn about what can go wrong the more i worry. i work in an office job so the internet is so accessible for me which is not a good thing.

I will defiantly mention it to my midwife and see what she says.

Thank you again for taking the time out to message back.

so yes mmc can happen - however do you know they only actually account for 1 percent of all miscarriages? the overwhelming likelihood if you've had no pain and no bleeding/days of spotting is that all will be well. after seeing a heartbeat at 9 weeks (I mean really at 8 weeks +6 close enough) the chances of a miscarriage is 0.5 percent - considering this I would say the odds are much more in your favour. think of all the people on this planet and how many people you see a day, they were all successful pregnancies. just look after yourself, try to find ways to distract and calm yourself over the next few days - good luck, I'm sure you'll be okay x

@babycakes1989 Thank you so much for your message i really appreciate it. congratulations on your pregnancy! I am so sorry for your loss. literally no stop worrying i think i am getting on everyone nerves haha. I am hoping after my 12 week scan i will stop worrying so much. my 12 week scan is only on Monday but that seem so long away haha. thank you so much for your message and taking the time out to message me back and telling me about your story. I really appreciate it. i hope you have a lovely evening :)

Hey @Hope1408 my scan in next Tuesday and I am worrying about MMC the same as you. Fingers crossed for both of us 😘

@Hopex3 thank you for your message.

i didnt know that thank you so much and thank you for taking the time out to message me. you have made me feel alot better about my worry of a MMC so thank you very much. x

@rc1985 oh my goodness congratulations

I have 4 DC but have had three missed miscarriages, 2 MC and an ectopic. I think when he suffer loss the anxiety never leaves and you will look for signs that something has gone wrong and live in a heightened state of anxiety. I bought my self a heartbeat monitor because I was in such a state. I have lost pregnancy symptoms and baby was still alive and kicking so I just hope all goes well on Monday. Do not GOOGLE you will make yourself ill.

I think the worry never leaves you but the fact you've seen the heartbeat earlier is really positive.
For me, I had the same mc signs with my last 3 pg. the odd thing was the third time there was nothing wrong at all and all was well. It's a worrying time, do let us know how you get on.

@aweedropofsancerre thank you so much for your message and taking your time out to message me and telling me about your story. I am so sorry for your losses. I was looking at those heartbeat monitors, i think i will buy one after my 12 week scan it might put my mind at ease and make me less worried. thank you for your wishes and message i really appreciate it i hope you have a lovely evening. x

@Hope1408 me too, never knew about MMC until Google. Should stop googling it’s bad for us. Last night I read loads and got myself into a right state. Have to ban myself.

@aweedropofsancerre thank you so much for your message and taking your time out to message me and telling me about your story. I am so sorry for your losses. I was looking at those heartbeat monitors, i think i will buy one after my 12 week scan it might put my mind at ease and make me less worried. thank you for your wishes and message i really appreciate it i hope you have a lovely evening. x

@GrimDamnFanjo thank you for your message. I am sorry for your loss.
i will defiantly give an update on Monday to let you know how it went. thank you for your message i hope you have a lovely evening. x

@RC1985 it certainly is bad for us. i read other peoples stories then convince myself the same will happen to me then get all upset about it. my partner dosent like me googling either he always tell me to stop it. i work in an office job so i have access to the internet all day which is not a good thing at all haha. we really need to googling. x

Hope1408 hope everything is going well with your pregnancy

@Hope1408 yes had 2 scans now and all ok, heard heartbeat Friday but just worry about everything. And still Google. How are you?