Had a baby 4 months ago, found out I’m 3 months pregnant again! Considering a termination but need advice

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Sensitive subject, but I had a baby 4 months ago I didn’t have a period but as breastfeeding I was told I may not get one for a little while. And after a month me and my partner started to have sex again but using a condom. I didn’t even think I could get pregnant as even breastfeeding is apparently a form of contraception....4 months after having my boy I begin to get really sick, no motivation etc. I took a test as I just didn’t feel myself. Pregnant again! This is not we had planned, I was only with my partner 4 months (child hood friends) before getting pregnant with our first, I didn’t agree with abortions even though it was to soon, I knew if he decided to split up I could look after one baby on my own, after having our first little boy we decided to book holidays for us 3 and enjoy our relationship that we haven’t yet got to do, then we find out this news. Atm it is not the right time, we have a one bedroom can’t afford to move we are all in one room. It could also ruin our relationship completely and I couldn’t look after two kids on my own I would really struggle. Anyone been through this as I feel really bad. Specially how far along I am. Thank you xx

How do you know you’re 3 months pregnant? Have you had a scan?

Hey yes I booked in for a consultation at a clinic, and they told me I was 10 weeks and 4 days I booked in for a surgical termination which they couldn’t do for two weeks which now makes me 12. I didn’t think I would be this far along which has made the decision so much harder specially now having a baby.

My appointment is next week and I’m so scared

Wow that’s pretty incredible. No advice but amazing how you can get pregnant 1 month after birth I didn’t think this was at all possible especially when breastfeeding .

Sorry no advice

Are you scared of the procedure itself or of regretting your decision?

Same that why I didn’t notice till 3 months on! I didn’t think it was possible🙈

Not so much scared of the procedure, more my decision. But we haven’t got space for another child we are all in one bedroom atm and won’t be moving out for another 2-3 years. It’s hard as it is all in one room. We both agreed it’s way to soon we wanted to enjoy our first baby. And I also fear it could break us up, which I really don’t want to be a single mum of two. I think I feel worse as how far along I am, i made the decision thinking I was only 8 weeks or less. Not 3 months..... I feel terrible about it.

The clinic should have a counselling service, contact them and ask about it. It’s very common to have concerns about regretting a termination. Talk them through with the counsellor.