Just found out I'm pregnant ..feel like my life is over

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My period is late. This morning I took two pregnancy tests and both were positive. I'm shocked and tearful,this was not planned at all. I have a DD aged 21 months and have struggled massively since her birth, I had early stage postpartum psychosis and am still on medication. I feel like two young children would destroy my relationship, my career and my sanity. It seems so hard. How do people cope? I have a abortion consultation in the morning but my partner wants us to keep it and I don't know what to do. Has anyone felt similar and survived having a newborn and a toddler? Thanks x

You have to do what's right for you. In your situation I wouldn't want to keep it. Go for your consultation and then have another think about it. Just remember, that only you knows how you really feel about this. You'll get all sorts of opinions, but not off anyone that's you. I wish you well.

I’m sorry to hear that you have such a difficult decision to make. Here’s my experience, with my first I was really ill in hospital, he was s Oren baby and I ended up have post natal depression, at first I struggled to cope and took one day at a time, after awhile I completely fell in love with him. I made my mind up when he was 2 I didn’t want anymore and then I found out I was pregnant, I was happy with my life the way it was. I now have a 3 month old daughter who was also a prem baby, it has been hard I will not lie but I have a lot of support from my husband and family which really helps and my son loves her. You have to do what you feel is right for you. Big hugs sent your way.

Prem baby! Predictive text!

There are tonnes of women who have survived having a baby and a toddler.

You have to ask yourself a few questions, like what is your support network like? Are you seeking counselling for your postpartum psychosis? Do you think your partner will be able to cope if you are unable?

It’s completely doable, but if it’s not right for you then it’s not right.

Don’t beat yourself up about anything. You have to do what is right for you.

I agree with the previous post, you and your health has to take priority x