Grieving my mum whilst pregnant

[LulaLuna]

Mum died last year, and i miss her so much especially now im becoming a mum. How did you get through grief during this time?

Bless you OP, that's very hard, I am sorry. My mum died a few years before I had my first child so I'd had more time to get used to it. Do you have sisters, aunts, nice MIL that could step in? (Not replace your mum of course but kind of be there specially for you). Best wishes to you.

Sorry to hear this; grief is such an individual thing and how we respond to it. Do you have other female relatives you can talk to at the moment?

My mum also died last year and I’ve got 2 week old twins. I miss her dreadfully anyway but especially at the moment and know she would be doing all sorts of things including buying 1/2 the clothes in the baby department at Debenhams!! I just have to accept that, even though she’s no longer here, she ‘knows’ about my pregnancy and my boys and is happy for us as a family xx

So sorry about your loss op.

My mum died last year as well, started trying for a baby just before in the hope that I would get to tell her I am pregnant (she was terminal), but it didn't happen.
I've been grieving for the last year and fell pregnant on anniversary of her death strangely enough. I miss her more than ever now, my dream was to have her with me in the delivery room. I will instead ask my sisters to join me, it is not the same thing but they are the next best thing. If you have any family or friends that you could have with you instead of your mum I am sure it will be great support. No one will ever replace her, all you can do is keep her in your thoughts.
What I've been doing for the past year is wear her jewellery. Especially when I feel down and miss her dearly. It really helps me feeling closer to her, for example when something happens and I would of called her to tell her, just touching the things I got left from her really calm me down.

Sorry I don't have much advice, every woman should have her mother by her side in times such as this when we're about to become mothers ourselves. The pain will never go away but it will get easier and in time you will get to think of her without all the grief.

Take care op x

Hey girls, im sorry that you all are going through it too. I guess its something we could never prepare for, and it comes in waves in how i feel about things. Thank you for the advice and ideas from how you manage and stay feeling connected to your mums. You all are in my prayers today, grief really is so hard at times.
I have a very small family, its just my nan who is 86, my uncle and brother who is abroad, and my dad but we are not close.
I am blessed i have some very good female friends, all who are older than me which helps as they have that lovely warm prescence and are mums themselves.
Nothing quite like a hug from my mum. My partner is amazing, i just miss being held by my mum, i know im nearly 28, but its like an overwhelming sense of wanting to cuddle her.
Its good to be able to talk to others who understand, i really appreciate the messages
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