Cancel holiday? I'm going on Thursday...

[CassandrasCastle]

Hey all. I'm 7+4 and currently feeling shit (ugh so moany I'm sorry). I had to come home from work earlier because of nausea/extreme weakness like I needed to just slump on my desk, the long walk back to my car was interesting...
Anyway, I'm supposed to be joining my bf, who's already out there, in Europe for a theatre festival for a few days, flying out late afternoon Thurs. I was going to go straight from work to catch the airport bus, but honestly even the thought of lugging my bag to the bus station is scary right now. Oh, and we're camping for 3 nights I really don't want to cancel this (booked before I had a clue I was pg, and was so so looking forward to it) but I currently don't know what to do. Play it by ear?? I may feel better... I'll also feel pretty embarrassed if I do go, leaving work early with my holiday gear, after I basically told my line manager today I was prob going to cancel the hol - partly to make her more sympathetic, and I KNOW that sounds awful. What to do...

It's not recommended to fly in the first trimester so I'd cancel for that reason alone.

Really?? Oh shit, I had no idea about that, what an idiot. We are supposed to be getting the train back...

The NHS says nothing about not flying in your first trimester! www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/travel-pregnant/

If you don't think your up to it because early pregnancy is hard work exotically if you're feeling sick then cancel. Just make sure your travel insurance covers pregnancy as a reason if not you'll just have to suck up the cost

There is nothing wrong with flying in the first trimester as long as your well enough.

It does sound like if you went in this trip you would have a miserable time. X

Flying in the first trimester is absolutely fine...there are no issues at all. People do it all the time and it's totally safe. That said, it sounds like it might be quite a miserable few days for you if you're feeling so rough so I'd probably cancel in your situation.

The NHS website doesn't say you can't fly in the first trimester....

I'd be looking at ways to make the trip easier for yourself - e.g. can you get a taxi to the airport or at least to the bus station? Can you take something to make your sleeping arrangements more comfy? Can you identify the things you REALLY want to do whilst you're out there and then sleep the rest of the time? Is there anything your OH can do to help you - e.g. can he be in charge of getting food and bringing it to you if you need to rest?

I know it's annoying to have to plan like this (I have a genetic condition that means I have to do this quite often) but it's better than missing out and you might find you feel more OK that you thought when you get there.

I think it's something to do with the pressure in the cabin but other people will have a better idea than me.

The posters above say that it's ok but my midwife told me otherwise so don't necessarily take my word for it!

Obviously it doesn't look great to work if you're off sick then go away but you can't help when or if you're sick for a few days before the weekend.

Also bear in mind that you may struggle to do this kind of thing for a while once LO is here, so if you can do things you enjoy, then do!

Congrats btw!

Sorry to hear you are feeling so rubbish @CassandrasCastle :( I hope you still feel better soon. I would play it by ear, especially if you have been looking forward to it. Maybe the break from routine will be just the tonic you need to feel a bit better. Don't worry about what work thinks - it is perfectly normal to be up and down with highs and lows during pregnancy!

I don't think that's true @AmIThough - I've read that the first trimester is an especially low-risk time to travel during pregnancy. The NHS itself advises just that due to nausea, sickness and tiredness, some women may simply choose not to, but there is no advice to avoid flying. Not to mention that for many people - they don't even know they are pregnant in these early weeks.

Thanks those who've just posted, I just googled about flying in the first trimester and realised it's not considered a risk in itself - thank goodness, as that alone was making my heart rate zoom up. It's not a massively expensive flight, but my bf has the train back and hotel in Paris etc. booked :( Oh shit, I'm a bit in denial about feeling so rough maybe, and don't want to cancel - it'd be a massive let down for him too. Not that he'd be angry or anything! But we'd both be so disappointed.
I'm being annoying about this, sorry

@AmIThough thanks for the congrats!

@PutTheBassInYourWalk I think planning ahead like that sounds really sensible - I was thinking that about the festival; just to feel able to return to our tent (!) whenever I feel the need to rest/sleep and if I miss out on some shows then oh well. BFs friend is coming with us, who I've never met before, but at this stage I really do not care if this approach somehow has an adverse effect on him 🙈 (Sure it won't anyway.)
I spoke to my partner last night about feeling sick, and he actually said he identified as he'd just eaten a large and greasy Dominoes He is normally amazing, I just don't think he quite gets how I'm feeling - also he's been away at conferences for most of the time that this nausea and fatigue has really ramped up for me

@CassandrasCastle I totally get it - my DH is usually amazing when I'm sick but he could just not seem to get his head around my first trimester nausea/exhaustion/hormones.

Do what you need to do and don't worry what him or his friend think/say.

@PutTheBassInYourWalk It's odd, isn't it. Atm I feel frustrated with him, but he is always so kind and thoughtful that that feels a bit unfair really... I just wish I could convey to him that this is seriously pretty dire atm. Doesn't help at all that I always try to reassure him/apologise for moaning etc. though