Stress in pregnancy

[Leleophants]

Anyone had this and been ok? Was baby born prematurely? My stress is not baby itself but home and work and barely sleeping every night and spend so much time crying and anxious. In my third trimester and I'm worrying it's harming the baby :(

Please contact your midwife and ask for an urgent referral to your perinatal mental health team. They are there to support you with problems like anxiety.

Your baby will be absolutely fine but it's you who needs the support. Plus, baby is nearly here and you sound as if you will likely need the support after the baby is born - better to make the links now.

It won't harm the baby but agree with PP you need help. Def speak to someone. Baby will be absolutely fine.

I changed my life completely during my first pregnancy because of high stress. I walked out of my job and into something lower pay and responsibility. Not just for the baby, but for you, can you make life style changes at all?

Bless your heart, one thing I would suggest is try and focus on eating and drinking well. If I’m having a rough day I just focus on the fact baby is being fed well and I’m keeping hydrated. I know it probably sounds tedious but I find it a comfort 💜

Thank you. I have messaged my midwife. My job isn't generally high stress but they are being unsupportive and difficult which has made it difficult and the housing situation is difficult too. I keep being told the baby takes everything on and is learning to be stressed from me and it makes me feel awful!

Sit and concentrate on the feeling of your breathing in and out for a few minutes.
Is there anyone (family, partner) who can support you?
Can you take any remaining annual leave from work and finish early?
Try and have a little walk somewhere green if you can and concentrate on everything you see, colours, shapes etc so that your mind has a break.

Hope you're doing ok today. Just to say I had an awful time of it with divorce and other stuff happening during my last pregnancy. I used to get stress pains whenever I got an email from the ex it was so scary. Got quite miserable too with many sleepless nights. Lucky for me my partner gives a good massage, those moments of being able to relax really helped me through. If I didn't have him around or he was useless I'd be turning to things like meditation apps, a yoga class to yawn through, anything that brings a bit of a healthy break from the stresses. Doing this stuff this time around anyway I'm determined to make this a much calmer pregnancy! In my case pleased to say dd born overdue, healthy and a good weight. Seems a pretty chilled and happy sort too.

Work have been really unsupportive and there are HR issues going on now...
A part of me doesn't want to give in (as I still feel able to work and actually find it distracting, despite also feeling angry and discriminated against). Another part of me just wants to throw in the towel now. I'm 32 weeks and was due to go off 36 and a half weeks.

Anyone else had similar?

I had all kinds of things happen during my first pregnancy and my daughter is now turning 7 and absolutely fine!
My dad died suddenly when I was 12 weeks, which I witnessed and was very traumatic
My house was raided by burglars (ransacked) which left me terrified to sleep at night (hence I’m awake at 4:30am 7 years down the line!)
I got married to her father who was abusive, controlling, violent
I moved 200 miles away from everything I knew and started again from scratch, having never lived as a proper “adult”
It’s amazing what our bodies can cope with

I'm sorry you went through all that @BarleyG. I'm wondering what I should do and whether to leave work or not. I don't want to regret it.

If you leave work now how badly will it impact you financially op?

Is there any way you can keep going in but just really "phone it in" and put in minimal effort until your planned may leave date?

Is there a supportive manager anywhere in the organisation who can support you?