Hubby not giving an answer over #2

[farmmumtomillie]

So i have been with my partner nearly 6 years (nov) and married 3 this month
We have a 19 month old and i really want a second and have done for 6 months now.
He keeps telling me 'a few months' or 'when we know the business is running smoothly' 'we have good enough staff for you to be able to go on maternity' 'when the summer is over and done with and we have more time'
I'm heartbroken, honestly.
I've TRIED over and over talking to him about it and we get no where. He doesn't want to open up about it or give me any kind of time frame.
I've been telling him i wanted to wait until our Holiday (this month) because I wouldn't want to risk morning sickness while away and ruining our first family holiday.
I tried to talk to him about it by text this week (he's usually more open via messages) and he was even more cryptic than before so now I'm thinking maybe he plans to surprise me on holiday but what if he doesn't?
Will i be getting my hopes up for nothing.
How do i tell him when we get back 7/8 months of 'few months, we will see' etc is enough snd I can't deal mentally with it.

I had an awful end to pregnancy and birth, healing etc. I have to have a section this time and i just do not want to wait any longer! I want to get it over so i can then start re-building my body properly

Sorry. Just needed to vent

Sounds like you need honesty. Perhaps he's unsure, perhaps he found "the difficult end" of your pregnancy distressing? Talk to one another, openly. There is never a perfect time to have a baby and trying / having babies is fraught with unknowns. Good luck.

I think he is giving you an answer, he’s not ready for another child yet. Are his concerns about finances fair? You obviously went through a lot having your baby, maybe he’s worried about you going through a lot again and how that will affect you and your existing child. If he’s not ready, he’s not ready. All you can do is keep talking.

I think he is giving you an answer, he’s not ready for another child yet.

^This.

See I've said this to him several times and he tells me it's nothing to do with the last pregnancy or birth and he does want another.
We had decided we didn't want any more after our LG but we had a slip up and I unfortunately Mc feb/march time and he said it took him a while to come to terms with having another but he has now and he does talk about when we have a second!

We own our own business and we have only just started started to be able to have 'time off' in the last month
I still work 7 days a week and he works 5 days a week but we now have 3 staff members(one on maternity leave now though) and we have over 200 regular clients.
We have 20k+ in savings 🤷‍♀️ and home etc so we don't 'need' it for anything

I've asked him if it's because he doesn't want another and he says no he does, but when we know the 'business is running itself' etc

If you have only just started being able to have time off and your still working 7 days a week maybe he wants to enjoy a bit of the time off before ttc. Is it likely you can also drop to 5 days in the near future? If you can’t then it suggests the business won’t cope without you whilst your on maternity leave.

So i work mornings and he works afternoons.but it won't be long until we can both have two full days off together. Maybe but why isn't he honest! We have had some many conversations, surely if it's the case, stringing me alone is worse?

Men aren't always good at communicating, not just men actually people in general sometimes! Maybe he thinks it's inferred or maybe he just didn't know the reason and just feels it's too soon.

In part i agree with him. Have some time for yourselves together and make sure you'll be able to take time off to be with baby and enjoy baby rather than being stressed if you have to return too early.

To me that’s what he is saying but people interpret things different. When the business runs itself suggests that at the moment he would like you both to be putting in less hours but making good money. Have you asked him what he means by when the business runs itself? Or when the business is running smoothly? I totally get your frustration as it sounds like the business is running well I just interpret what you have written as more about having more family time but I could be completely wrong