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Why has miscarriage stopped?

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disconnecteddrifter · 31/08/2019 14:52

6 weeks pregnant, 4th time this year all ended in mmc no reason apart from age (40). Yesterday stopped feeling exhausted and had some pink discharge when wiping. Period like cramps for about 2 mins on 3-4 occasions. Thought definitely lost it, although other mmc just loss of symptoms and brown discharge. Obviously very upset and drank about half a bottle of wine last night. Woke up no further bleeding. White discharge. Still not tired, breasts hurt marginally. What do I do? I cant go to epau and face another disappointing scan, besides went back to work yesterday and I'm a teacher. Epau is only open 9 am for an hour and I cant take more time off work (had so much already for this reason). Also the students are starting back so would be massively unprofessional and inconvenient.
How long until it passes if there was pink discharge yesterday and none now? Did the wine delay it?

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DancingDelli · 04/09/2019 20:45

Thinking of you OP

Take care of yourself xx

Evertheconundrum · 04/09/2019 21:05

Mumof2and3angles · 05/09/2019 11:16

Don’t lose hope yet I have read loads of stories of women being told this and then finding the baby at 9 weeks
My blighted ovum mmc I went at 7 weeks and the sac was less than 5 weeks but continued to grow and they refused to help till it either stopped growing or was larger than 21mm and empty I eventually mc at 12 weeks but I knew even before the bleed at 7 weeks it wasn’t right 5 scans later the sac stopped growing at 20.5mm and miscarried 3 days later
But they really can’t say until then
If you have a tilted uterus it can make a big difference
Finger crossed for you x

lumpy76 · 05/09/2019 11:19

Just offering moral support. I'm 43 just had my 3rd mc in a row and 5th altogether. Also have had cervical shock with one mc (horrific and ended up in resus). Sending love x

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disconnecteddrifter · 05/09/2019 18:24

Yes no one told me how life threatening a miscarriage could be your story same as mine and I let it go on as thought I was just being a wimp not being able to handle the pain and blood loss until I passed out I was in hospital for a few days and I'm really anxious about it happening again.
I'm sorry to hear of your losses. Really so bloody tough. Have you had any insight as to why? My consultant said everything is perfect and just to keep trying but it's so heart breaking.

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lumpy76 · 05/09/2019 19:03

@disconnecteddrifter I've haven't seen anyone yet but I fully suspect my age is the basis of the problem as I have children. I am going to get some basic hormone tests though just in case it might be a progesterone problem that could be helped.

I had never heard of cervical shock until it happened to me. I'd heard of haemorrhaging but understood it to be rare. With the subsequent mc's I've been nervous of it happening again. I have wondered whether it happened partly because I was further into the pregnancy - the baby had got to around 9 weeks but I waited for a natural mc and so was well over 13 weeks by the time that happened. My other mc's have all been 10 weeks or before.

I'm sorry to hear of your losses too xxx

VenusStarr · 06/09/2019 09:55

Hi @disconnecteddrifter, I'm sorry you're going through this again. Our circumstances are very similar, I'm supposed to be 8 weeks today. Scan last Friday showed a pregnancy with foetal pole and yolk sac around 5 weeks, so 2 weeks behind. I'd had an early scan as I had a mmc in April this year and it seems it happening again.

I've got another scan next Friday to confirm. I've not bled or had any negative symptoms to suggest a miscarriage, so different to my first experience.

Sending love at this shitty time 💜 xx

mommato3 · 06/09/2019 16:20

@disconnecteddrifter Didn't want to read and run.
Cramping and spotting is all fairly normal in early pregnancy as there's so much going on. I had a mc in Feb and am also now 40 so I know it's so hard to remain positive the second something seems amiss. My symptoms came and went too which was horrible. Right now at 12+6 I'm laid on the bed feeling as sick as a dog. Been fine mostly for nearly 2 weeks!
As for your scan, being a day or so to a week out can also be perfectly normal so try not to lose all hope just yet. My motto this pregnancy has been expect the worst and hope for the best. So far so good.
Sending you baby dust for a sticky baby. Hope next weeks scan shows something positive. Will be thinking of you xx

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disconnecteddrifter · 07/09/2019 08:34

I'm so sorry there are so many of us going through this. I'm finding it hard to go on. Feel like I have lost a lot of friends as I have been pregnant and miscarrying for a year now and it's hard. Last night I got in from work and went to bed wishing I knew someone I could go out with, take my mind off the fact that I am pregnant but it's not viable. Just thinking of how I would love a baby and it might never happen

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TokenGinger · 07/09/2019 08:42

Hi OP, at my very first scan at what we thought was six weeks at the time actually should have been seven weeks. Going off my six week scan, they arranged my 12 week scan. At that, I measured 13 weeks.

So when they did the "six" week scan, I was actually seven.

Discrepancies at this stage are so common because you're talking a matter of mm in size.

I hope it all works out for you xx

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disconnecteddrifter · 07/09/2019 08:59

Thank you I just dont feel like I can have any hope as he said he could only see fluid. I dont even know what that means.

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ittooshallpass · 07/09/2019 09:09

Didn’t want to read and run... for you OP

VenusStarr · 07/09/2019 09:11

I an totally relate to losing friends @disconnecteddrifter I hope you're OK today xx

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disconnecteddrifter · 07/09/2019 10:16

@VenusStar it's so hard isnt it? I havent been feeling sociable because I'm pregnant pr miscarrying and when I'm pregnant I'm always on the look for miscarrying. I dont know how to get my life back and it feels incredibly lonely. I hope you're ok

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VenusStarr · 07/09/2019 11:26

Thank you @disconnecteddrifter. Its really tough. We struggled with infertilty before our first bfp, so I was already quite isolated, anxious and low and then miscarrying isolated me even further. This time I've just pushed everyone away, I can't face people's pity. I think things are starting today, sounds awful but I just want it over. Back for a scan on Friday.

How are you getting on today? When's your follow up? X

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disconnecteddrifter · 08/09/2019 19:05

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry you are in a similar situation. It's so so lonely. How are you today? I'm having cramps but no bleeding.

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VenusStarr · 08/09/2019 19:58

I'm pretty sure my miscarriage is over now @disconnecteddrifter. Feeling quite fragile but am OK. How are you? I hope you have support in real life from your partner / family xx

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disconnecteddrifter · 10/09/2019 17:26

Thanks venustar. I hope you're feeling ok. I told two friends and realised that I am burying things then argued with my partner because he said hed had four miscarriages and men go through it too. Not that I'm saying they arent affected but really the physical aspects are debilitating in themselves.
Still no signs for me but annoying my pregnancy symptoms returned today 10 days after they disappeared so now have sore breasts and exhaustion. It's such a mindfuck. I have no idea when this will resolve itself

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Windydaysuponus · 10/09/2019 17:30

Ttc is a minefield ime. Cramping and pink discharge can be fine. As can brown. I had cramping worse then period type with all of my dc. Couldn't believe all could be well!
Fingers crossed for you op.

Jesskir89 · 10/09/2019 17:39

@disconnecteddrifter sorry to hear you're having a difficult time and just wanted to share some knowledge from my own experience. I previously mc at 16 weeks so this pregnancy has made me so anxious so onmy 30th birthday I was bleeding at 5.5 weeks and went to A&E I had a scan 2 days later and they couldn't see anything so had an internal and back 2 weeks later. Luckily after several days of on and off spotting everything is OK and I'm not nearly 13 weeks. It could just be that you were too early on your scan to detect baby. There's also another lady on mum's net but I don't want to mention names she had her last period the same time as me and had her bfp on the same day as me yet is measuring over a week behind me and earlier on thought she was miscarrying but thankfully she's over 11 weeks now and all is well. Stay positive and fingers crossed for you. Also sorry to everyone else on here who has had difficulties x

Jesskir89 · 10/09/2019 17:44

Now nearly 13 weeks sorry *

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disconnecteddrifter · 18/09/2019 17:17

Just an update. Went for a scan today. They have said it is a blighted ovum but I have to go back for a scan next week to check. Also it is a pul. I dont really understand why I have to wait another week and suffer these pregnancy symptoms whilst it's almost certain to be unviable and I dont know why they are giving me hooe on the one hand and warning me to come in if I have eptopic symptoms. Such a mindfuck

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VenusStarr · 18/09/2019 17:22

Oh @disconnecteddrifter I'm so sorry to hear you're still in limbo ❤️ I thought they'd seen the yolk and gestational sac before? It's a definite mindfuck. Have you had any more miscarriage symptoms?

My epu were the same for both miscarriages, sent me away with a glimmer of hope and wait and see but not really explaining anything. Sending love, such a shit situation xx

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