I think Im having a miscarriage

[Helpmelmaooo]

Hello, wondering if anyone can help me with advice as I’m not really sure what’s happening?
I had a positive pregnancy test on Saturday which was quite faint, I was 10dpo. By 12dpo the tests had got a lot fainter all the way to negative on Monday when my period was due. Wednesday night had slight spotting and I just ignored it in hope that it may be implantation bleeding or common spotting. Thursday afternoon started heavier bleeding suddenly and yesterday and today it’s been very clotty and very painful, the pain is mostly in the centre but my right pelvic area is sometimes painful too which spreads down my thigh. I’ve been trying to convince myself it was a false positive test and this is just a bad period but I just keep thinking of the test and the fact that this bleeding is way more clotty and painful than usual and also my “period” was three days late which is unusual for me. I’m not sure what to do, should I go to the doctors or seek emergency help? I feel like a bit of an idiot in case I wasn’t pregnant and also my partner is at work and I’m at home with my two year old. I’ve been in bed with my child crying in pain all day and had a 2 hour nap. Any advice or insight would be really appreciated. Thank you

It sounds like you may have had a chemical pregnancy. I'm sorry this has happened to you!

I'm sorry this has happened. It happened to a friend of mine. One reason I only tested late ever and suggest friends do the same. Not that this helps you. I'm sorry.

I would suggest you just take it easy, bath, hot water bottle. TV and chocolate on the sofa while your little one plays. Be kind to yourself and try and take it gently physically and emotionally.

Get a take away tonight, have some wine and an early night plus lots of cuddles with your child and partner.

Thanks for your lovely replies.
Should I not bother getting medical attention? Can my body heal itself without? I’m just feeling awful, my partner is working away at the moment and my little girl is giving me a lot of trouble waking up during the night so it will be hard to get a rest

You could phone 111 and ask for advice, but I think with an early miscarriage they just let it run its course. Sorry you're going through this

Think general advice is unless the bleeding is filling a pad every 30 mins to an hour or the pain is unbearable you don't require medical treatment or at least this is what I got told. Look after yourself could someone come over and sit with you? Help with your little one whilst your partner is at work?

@ColdCottage advice was spot on take it easy, easier said than done with a two year old I know but get a take away, watch t.v in bed or read books with your lo. Take some painkillers aswell. At this stage I don't think you need medical attention. Do you have any friends or family who could come and keep you company or watch your Dd for a bit?

Sorry this is happening OP, I would agree with pp that this sounds like a chemical pregnancy which is (horribly) quite common and many people don’t realise it’s happened because they didn’t know yet. Unfortunately with an early miscarriage they will advise you to stay home, take painkillers if needed, and stay hydrated whilst it runs it’s course as they can’t do anything to speed it up once it’s started. I’ve had to do it twice (at 4 and just over 6 weeks). They only really want to see you if you are gushing blood and filling a pad within an hour or running a temperature with signs of infection - both of which are extremely rare. Your body will naturally expel what it needs too this early on, and then will go back to doing its normal thing.

It’s normal to be emotional, so don’t beat yourself up for that. It’s traumatic.

Could your little one go for a play date at friends or families? Or have a sofa and TV day for the day?

Again, I’m so very sorry. It’s s*. It really really is. Take care of yourself OP, especially emotionally over the next few hours/days/weeks xx

Sorry OP does sound like a chemical - no point in contacting 111 they will say go to a&e which just ties up resources as there is really nothing they can do at this stage

Unless your filling a pad quicker than 1 every 15 mins a hot bath and paracetamol with codeine should see you through x

Thanks for all your replies
Bleeding had slowed down a lot by this morning but got heavier with some smaller clots by about 2pm. It’s a lot better now though just like the last couple of days of a period and just some light cramps. My partner came home but he’s got a cold so I’ve been doing everything around the house, took my daughter out this morning and felt better for the fresh air but all in all feeling very run down. He also invited 4 of his family around for a Sunday roast for some reason so I was stuck cooking for 7 of us while they all sat. Feeling very resentful ☹️

@Helpmelmaooo did he know you were having a MC?

@MrsH497 no I just told him I had a really horrific period and was feeling unwell anyway (I also have that horrible viral cold going round)

@Helpmelmaooo maybe tell him I know it won't help how today's gone but maybe he'll be able to be the support you need

@MrsH497 that would be a bit hard as he went to the pub and left me with all his family while I was still cooking and has turned his phone off and not come back yet. Feeling very down now ☹️

Similar happened to me , I'm sorry . I called my hospital early pregnancy assessment unit the next day just for advice. They were very helpful and kind & I was glad I called them.

@wishful888 can I ask how long your bleeding lasted? Mine was spotting Wednesday night then full on bleeding from Thursday afternoon until present, looks like it may stop in the next day or two

Sorry missed your msg.
I hope you are feeling better today?
It started on the Saturday & lasted about 3 days heavy then tailed off. No more than a week.