Trying for a baby not sure if I'm just not doing it on ovulation!

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Hi, my partner and i have been together for two years and we haven't used protection at all. We both would love a baby but just can't seem to have one. I was pregnant about a year ago,took a test and it said 2 weeks pregnant so I went to the gp and got a urine test, by the time that result came back I had my period and lost the baby. If I didn't go to the gp and having the result to come back pregnant I wouldn't have even believed I got pregnant at all and it must have just been a wonky test that was incorrect. I haven't got pregnant since. And we want a baby so bad but I'm unsure if I'm just not having intercourse on the ovulation dates. I'm getting so impatient and starting to think can I even have kids? Going to try this month and if not going to just get a test done see if I can have kids? Anyone with similar situation or advice I would appreciate it so much. Thank you for reading none the less.

Sorry for your loss OP.

Have you been tracking your cycle on an app? Something like Ovia (there are many different ones) will give you an estimate as to an ovulation date and therefore your ‘fertile window’. You could, if you wanted, try ovulation sticks to try and pin point it too (you can add these to the apps and it’ll give you a more accurate fertile window).

There is a board on here called conception which is women trying to conceive- so at the same stage of your journey - you may find more support over there xx

I used 'Flow' app to give me an idea of my fertile days and then ovulation tests around that time to see when exactly I was fertile. They were only cheap (£1 for a pack of four I think) but did the job.

Keyboard 91, thank you for your reply.
I do have an app that's been tracking my period and ovulation for a long time now it's called "my calender" but tbh it only showed once an accurate time for my period. So that kind of gets in the way with the ovulation times as it thinks my next period is on a date it doesn't be. And I don't think it's the apps fault it's just I don't know the length of my cycle and as I've been tracking it the last while that's what I was trying to get a hold on,was how long is it. But every month it's different,eg:40,33,29,26,28,32,35,40,35,31,28,32. And i counted that how it said to on mumsnet, the start of your last period until day before your next. And that's getting in the way of an accurate time on when my ovulation or period can be. I have my period every month never missed and I wish it was just as easy as having intercourse 14 days before your next period but that isn't the case. I'm going to download that app you said thank you for that,and I'm also going to purchase ovulation sticks, I did have them before but got so impatient that it wasn't coming up smiley asap!😂 but when it did come up following month still nothing but tbh that was so long ago so I probably wasn't doing it right at the time, so this time fingers crossed it works. And okay thank you I will have a look on 'conception' I'm just new to this mumsnet but it's the best I've seen so far for answers,thank you again!xx

Personal question, but how often or you having sex?

@DerbyshireGirly I read some reviews about that app and it gave me mixed signals on whether to get it or not! I'm not sure what the reviews said as I've been looking for so many since to get the best one. But I know if I didn't download I mustn't have liked it, I will have a look on the reviews again thanks for your reply. And so happy it worked for you!

I have/had irregular periods like you.

The initial advice was to dtd every other day throughout the whole month.

I would advise having a chat with your GP, to get the ball rolling in case you need extra support. Tests showed that I didn't ovulate most months.

There are drugs, such as Clomid which help to make you ovulate in a controlled way.

Good luck.

@sianyb83 that's my point I'm not sure if I'm just not having it on the day of ovulation because we have it alot, but their is some days we don't, but my point and confusion is atleast one month we would have to have had it on ovulation like this month for eg, I knew I was ovulating so we had sex, all that week, I so thought I would have been pregnant and just before my period started it's was brown and I read alot have said that's normel, so I was doubting still but keeping positive, couple of times after that id go bathroom and still be wiping brown, then I wiped red and my period started I was gutted, every month testing and receiving negative or a false positive.

A lot of tracking apps do nothing to actually track ovulation, they just assume it happens 14 days before the period starts. If you want to properly track ovulation, then you really need to measure basal body temperature and use ovulation sticks.

I use Natural Cycles (currently pregnant but was using it successfully for contraception for nearly 3 years before we TTC) but there are others out there that do similar. Some research by UCL using data from Natural Cycles users was published in the last few days and shows that most women do not have a 28 day cycle of a 14 day luteal phase (that's the gap between ovulation and the period starting) - which is why just using a period tracker isn't very helpful.

Good luck OP. You'll find others discussing this sort of thing on the conception boards as a PP has already mentioned.

1984IsHappeningNow, oh if it was so easy as to have it all the time especially when you want a baby, my partner said to me the exact same thing,and I said yes that would be smart let's do it, but when it comes to the days when it's bickering you don't want sex with them you want them to move out of your face 😂sorry just had to chuckle. But definitely what you're saying is a superb idea and that's what I'm going to do! I am going to go to the gp but I do want to see if I can get pregnant with ovulation sticks this time and if not next month I will go! What's your advice on pregnacare conception?

Weathergirl 1, that's awesome news for you and congratulations I hope you have a safe and pleasant pregnancy💓💓
Yes I read alot saying ovulation isn't necessarily 14 days, but now I'm going to just test to ovulation sticks and see how I go, hopefully get a bfp💓

Oh boy do I understand that it's bloody hard to actual carry out that advice it really does take all the fun out of it when it feels so regimented!

I'd book in an appointment sooner rather than later, any tests might take a while, so carry on with the ovulation sticks/tracking in the meantime.

As for pregnacare. I'd just take folic acid, and generally have a healthy diet etc A lot cheaper and no real benefits.

Hi, just seen your post have you asked your doctors to test you for poloysitic ovaries. Reading your post about your period is similar to mine, my periods were all over the place. I've got a little boy and we have been trying for our second for nearly three years after going back and forth to docs and being fobbed off they finally done some checks and i have poloysitic ovaries so i wasnt ovulating. I've been referred to the fertility clinic and im on clomid last three months i haven't ovulated unfortunately no luck yet but my point ia speak to your doctors and ask for blood tests hopefully it might give you some answers or put your mind at ease. x

Pregnacare started bringing my cycle lengths closer together, 7 months after starting it and 5 months of regulars (within 5 days rather than within 5 weeks) later I became pregnant. I had all the nutrient tests done and everything was fine, so can't think why it could've helped, but it seemed to (or was it just coincidence?), so worth a try imo.
Also advise is to dtd every OTHER day not every day because every day impacts the quality of sperm (he's just not up for daily exercise!), lowering your chances - so statistically better every other day. We did even days a month when "near ovulation time" a few months, then did odd days, and that worked.