2ND BABY

[KJ26]

Hi everyone :D

So I've recently found out I'm expecting my second baby, my last Period was the 26th July so I'm assuming I'm around 6 weeks gone..
I am excited but also have ALOT of concerns and just wondering if anyone can kind of help turn my mind into not such a worrying bundle of mess lol

So first worry - I have a 3 year old.boy and he is my life, I literally love the bones of him and can't imagine loving another child as much as I love him. And what if he feels he isn't enough and how do you juggle 2 kids?

Second - I HATE being pregnant, I don't enjoy anything about it, I hate people looking at me, I hate the bump, I hate literally everything. And the whole people looking at my differently, it happened with my first and I couldn't bare it.

Thirdly - is my weight. I'm overweight now, and I suffer with an ED and bad self image, so I'm only going to get bigger, I was just starting a work out regime and eating healthy which I'll still do but the excercise part, like what can I do? How can I tell myself that I'm beautiful even when I'm going to be the size of a house.

Fourthly - I have depression and anxiety and I'm on meds, is this going to affect the baby?

Fifth - I'm scared about the labour. I had a C-section with my first, emergency. I can't bare the thought of a natural (it's like a fear) but I don't want another csection as I don't want to be away from my first born.

Just some reassurance would be great !

Hi @KJ26. Please try not to worry. My youngest was nearly 3 when the second was born. I just involved her as much as possible, told her what an amazing big sister she was etc. When the baby slept we would get arts and crafts out or do baking together. I had the second in July and the eldest was starting funded hours at preschool in the sept. I thought my goodness two massive changes it will be awful but she loved preschool and then coming home showing us what she had done.

So my eldest was emergency section and second was elective. I’m having an elective this time as well. I was only in one night with my second section. If they are happy with everything they will let you go quite soon. This time I will hopefully have a few nights in the birth centre as I really want to rest and recover and establish breastfeeding as best as I can. I’d like to add my children are now 11 and 14 so I’ve got a huge age gap!

Regards to exercise are there any pregnancy yoga or aqua natal classes in your area? On one of my apps there was a section of exercise you could do. Xx

Thank you! That makes me feel a bit better