Angry ! Would you be offended?

[Pinkflower23]

Hi all,

So me and my partner sadly had a loss a couple of years ago. We decided to name her my middle name. ( I’m not going to say it as it’s so unusual and identifiable to those who may know me)
So now the mother and farther in law have just gone and brought a new chicken and named it the same !! I literally want to kill it! I know it’s not it’s fault!
I cried when I heard it ! I just think it’s straight up disrespectful and upsetting!
I have not said anything to them, quite frankly we don’t have that kind of relationship where we talk personal. I’m still the same girl to them I was 10 years ago when they met me. They have never seen me change, like shout or express actual honest opinion. Which is usually the first thing I do to my partner the second We leave their house.
Should I say something?
Would you be offended!?
Thanks xx

Wow. I would be messaging them and saying "I'm actually really upset that you named your chicken after our late child. I'd appreciate it if you would reconsider its name'

Was it supposed to be a nice memorial gesture that has gone horribly awry? I’m struggling to believe anyone could be so obtuse.

Your DH needs to speak to them and tell them how upset you both are, and give them a chance to put this right.

You are grieving. If they knew what this name means to you they are completely thoughtless and clearly dont understand. I imagine they have not the faintest idea what they have done. This is a chicken. You dont have to have anything to do with it or ever use the name. It would be worse if they had a child and used the name. Unfortunately you dont own the name and maybe they just liked it. I think you need to get your head around this one. It is understandable you feel protective of the name but there is nothing you can do to prevent others using it

That is awful they must have something seriously wrong with them I'd have it out with them but wouldn't see them in the same light ever again

Imo that chicken is a hell of a lot nicer than your ils..
Please never feel you have to see them again.
You really don't.
Sorry for your loss.

@VLCdoingit has nailed it, perfect response. I'd be absolutely furious and very upset.

Sorry to hear about your loss Was it a really known thing in the family that you named your late child this name because if not then maybe they aren't aware and if you mentioned it to them they might actually be understanding and change the name..

No wonder you're so upset. This feels really insensitive. Although, as a PP said, whether they made an ill judged attempt at a memorial?! Also assuming that they definitely knew the name? Not doubting you, just confirming this. But nonetheless, your feelings are valid. So sorry for your loss.

If be offended too. A chicken?!