Pregnant at 40

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I have just found out I’m pregnant and will be 40 in a few months.Im so worried that I will miscarry.We were ttc for over 2 years for our second baby.Im so happy but terrified something will happen.We were due to go to IVF in 2 weeks.Im afraid to cancel in case I lose the baby and then lose my place in the nhs ivf queue.I found out very early 9dpo on a digital pregnancy test. Anyone pregnant at 40?

I had my first at 40. There's a higher risk of Down syndrome etc we had amnio, and of early miscarriage but if you have conceived you've done the hardest bit. Both DC healthy and happy - DC2 born just before my 44th birthday!

Oh that is great to hear.I feel there is so much negative stuff about older women having babies.Its all I seem to read at the minute.Im going to keep this news to my immediate family only as I would prefer to tell others after my first scan if everything is ok.I got the BFP one week before my period.It isn’t due until Wednesday.

Congratulations!!!

I miscarried at 12 weeks when I was 42. Conceived again at 43 (naturally) and had my healthy baby girl at 44. She's 14 months now.

I was lucky to have a pretty easy pregnancy as well (bar swollen feet in the final weeks 😆), but I think I stressed too much second time around (babies can pick up on this) so try to focus on the positives - you're pregnant and it's amazing. Well done!

Thankyou so much for your lovely comments.I felt fine in my first pregnancy but they had me diagnosed with everything; gestational diabetes, placenta previa, overweight, low amino fluid, baby too big: baby too small, geriatric mother (at 36!) lol.I didn’t mind the needles for the diabetes but I found the diet hard, all I wanted was fruit and I wasn’t really allowed any (well not the entire melon I wanted every day!).Thanks for being so kind.Great to hear happy stories.

I am sorry about your miscarriage that must have been very hard.x

My mum started a family at 41 and I was born when she was 45. This was back in the days when it was quite unusual to be an older mum. We were all healthy babies. Congratulations and try not to worry.

I understand how you feel as when you start reading the stats etc it’s all doom and gloom. I’ve found that midwives and consultants are not concerned so that put me at ease slightly. I have to see consultant because of health condition, not age. I have had major anxiety right through this pregnancy. I’m due in a few weeks and still check toilet paper every visit expecting blood. Every test and scan has come out spot on, no problems with blood pressure etc. Definitely way more tired than with previous pregnancies when I was younger (big gap since last child so they treat this as a first child again). Little one is very active. I can’t say yet if everything is fine as I have to fight with negative thoughts daily and just need to hold baby in arms, but when I’ve got practical head on pregnancy has been no problem and baby seems totally fine.

Im away to turn 40 & i am 29wks pregnant,we have a healthy baby no extra tests needed for downs or anything,i have had more pain this time & feeling more worried but other than that its been fine. Ive had prem babies so ive had extra scans etc but thats not due to my age
Congrats! Try not to worry,age doesnt mean that things go wrong,i lost a baby when i was 20wks and i was age 29 so try not to worry about age x

I’m 39 and will be 40 in October. I’m currently 17 weeks 2 days pregnant. I totally get your fears all the stats and information says everything is against us when in reality women have healthy babies all the time around late thirties early 40’s

I’ll be getting a glucose tolerance test but that’s more to do with me being overweight.
My Down’s syndrome test came back low risk.

I’d say do what I did and just take each day at a time you’ll find you sail through it if do that x

I'm 40 & I'm 23 weeks pregnant tomorrow! I'll be 41 having DD. I found early pregnancy the most draining and hard, once I hit 12 weeks though I've being sailing through it. Had no tests for downs etc, I'm in Ireland and they don't routinely check for it here, so I've left it up to mother nature. All my scans have come back perfect and showing a healthy Baba