Lonely and emotional

[Jsnb9319]

Hey

Just wondering if anyone else finds pregnancy really lonely? I'm 15w and I feel like I can't talk to any of my friends and struggling with my relationship with my husband.

It's almost like my friends are like "well i'll leave you to it" when I reach out to them because I'm the first of my friends to get pregnant, and everything is so superficial.

My husband has even said to me more than once, "sometimes I forget that you're pregnant". I know it's not happening to him but it's all we talk about it's difficult to forget! I've told him I need his support but he just drives me nuts!

I guess I just wondered if anyone else has ever felt like this and I'm determined not to let this get me completely down...I mean I have a little human keeping me company 24/7!

Thanks x

I didn't want to read and run. That's a shame about your friends and I can relate. Some of mine aren't at all interested and the others with children are more interested but also have their own kids to think about. That's why I come on here to get a sense of someone else going through the struggles.

Your husband sounds like my partner. I sometimes think he forgets I'm pregnant and because he doesn't go through the worry and pains it means it didn't exist (or at least that is how it seems to me!).

Maybe sit your husband down and talk to him again and explain you're feeling lonely and that him saying he forgets makes you feel worse.

I can't really offer any more advice. I have accepted that if I want to talk baby I discuss with my mum as I feel she is the one who understands the most.

I hope it improves for you.

I can relate to this! I’m also the first of my friends to get pregnant (in fact most of my friends are proudly child-free) and my husband took a long while to get interested in the pregnancy. With both, they got interested when the bump started to appear and now my husband dotes on my bump, and my previously kid-averse mates are really interested.

Focus on keeping your friendships going in this in-between phase by making sure you’re asking for lots of contact time, reaching out and asking them what’s going on in their lives. I made the mistake of only ever talking about being pregnant which in hindsight must have been boring for them. I also have a WhatsApp group of people I know who are expecting, and an NCT one too which has been a lifesaver for letting me talk about pregnancy and feeling like someone is listening. Crossing fingers you’ll start to feel less lonely as the weeks go on!

Thank you so much, some really good thoughts and advice that I hadn't thought about x