Hate the feel of baby kicks 🤢

[Kinsters]

I feel awful writing this because obviously I love my baby and I'm happy that she's healthy enough to be kicking me.

But...I hate the feeling of the kicks. They're really low down - it feels like she's kicking my cervix and the area just above it. It makes me jump and grimace when she does it (particularly the cervix kicks) and it makes me feel sick and I can't focus on anything else when she's doing it.

Has anyone else felt like this? And did you find anything that helped? Everyone talks about feeling movement as being such an enjoyable part of pregnancy and I'm not finding that to be the case at all. I don't mind it so much when she kicks a bit further up but the low down ones are especially horrible. I try and sit in positions where I can't feel her so much but that doesn't always work and it really freaks me out when she's kicking my cervix and I can't do anything to make her stop.

I wish I liked these feelings because it's a connection I have with my baby before she's even in the world and that's so special. I try and remind myself of this when she's kicking and focus on that it shows she's healthy but at the end of the day I just hate the sensation and can't seem to talk myself into liking it.

They freaked me out for a good few weeks. It is a very strange sensation and it is totally normal not to like it

I don't particularly like feeling movement either OP and mine haven't so far been painful. I wouldn't worry about feeling the way you do. We're all different and I don't think it's helpful that the general narrative around pregnancy is that women should enjoy it. Some might do, others won't, and all it does is make those in the latter group feel guilty about not conforming to the expected norms. 🤦

Yep.
I’ve hated it through all three pregnancies. I know it’s good that the baby is moving around, but the feeling of it just makes me feel sick.

Ok I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I'm hoping that as it goes on it'll get easier rather than harder to deal with. I'm 21 weeks with anterior placenta so the movements I feel are still pretty sporadic.

You're so right Weathergirl1 - I was always sure I'd love being pregnant because of how it's presented, but I just don't and I feel bad about that. Like I've failed as a mother before I've even had the baby - which is ridiculous but there we go.

sometimes they were cute, but othertimes churned my stomach and could be really painful

I hated them too. Made my stomach churn.

It's a relief to see I'm not the only one.

I felt the same. Sometimes I would be lying in the bath and baby would be going for it. I'd go from thinking it was amazing to suddenly feeling sick like I had an alien in there. I'd get out quick and distract myself.

One thing I found helpful was knowing baby's sex and giving them a name as this helped me to bond with my bump.

Don't worry. You are normal.

Yes, we know the sex and have a name so it's helpful to be able to imagine who it is doing it (and ask her to stop!).

I just feel so disappointed because I'm so happy to be pregnant and was really excited and looking forward to it but so far it's just been painful - my hips and back hurt, my nipples have started hurting and now baby kicks hurt as well. I definitely had unrealistic expectations for what pregnancy would be like!

I hate the feeling too, what I do is hold my belly higher up to get the lil ones attention higher up, tends to work most of the time, I also push lightly where I don’t like the feeling and get him away, also works and doesn’t hurt the baby as it’s lightly and slowly I can feel him move away and then starts to kick my hand higher up.

You're not alone, I absolutely hated that feeling. It would make me feel ill. Luckily my DD didn't kick alot as I'm not sure if mentally I would've been able to handle it.