12 week scan worries

[Eggcellent29]

Hello ladies,

My 12 week scan is rapidly approaching and I am really struggling to control my worries about being told I’ve had another missed miscarriage.

My first baby died before 8 weeks (they didn’t say exactly when) and I found out at a scan.

I’ve already had a scan at 10 weeks and baby was wriggling away with a heartbeat, but it seems like so long ago and all the reassurance I got from it has gone! It doesn’t help that my pregnancy symptoms aren’t as strong - my morning sickness went around 10 weeks and my boobs aren’t sore.

Do any of you lovely ladies have any experiences you could share with me please? It may help to give me a bit of perspective!

I can't say I've been through your previous experience (so sorry about that) but I have recently had my 12 week scan with baby #1after trying to conceive for 8 months. Like you, by 12 weeks I had zero symptoms of a pregnancy and had quietly convinced myself that I'd made it all up and that there was no baby there. I even did a pregnancy test three days before my scan just to see that double line for a tiny bit of confirmation.

The scan went fine and it sounds like your 10 week scan. Wiggling and heartbeat etc. I was amazed.

It's been 2 weeks now and still I have no symptoms and I'm back to thinking the baby doesn't exist again! Booked for a private scan at 16 weeks for more reassurance.

Got my fingers crossed that your baby will be fine and I'm absolutely certain it will be. It's natural to worry I think, especially with that happened to you previously. You've got this x

Hello, try to take it day by day. My symptoms came and went. They completely disappeared at 8 weeks then came back at 11 but not nearly as strong, everything was fine. For some they dissipate at around this time anyway. I had extreme anxiety throughout my pregnancy, didn't relax until she was in my arms. Due to a loss I had before. If you feel this anxiety will not ease even after your scan counseling can be helpful, and you are likely to be seen quicker being pregnant. Hope you are feeling ok x

If your 10 week scan went well you’re in a really good place. I had a very similar experience - MMC discovered at 10 weeks (but baby had died before) last year. This time around I had a scan at 10 weeks (which I was literally shaking with worry about) and it was fine - then my symptoms (sickness and sore boobs) vanished so I was even more worried for the 12 week scan, but it was absolutely fine. The odds are really good if everything looks normal at 10 weeks. I totally get the fear though (and still spend a lot of time worrying now at 16 weeks). Good luck!

@Eggcellent29 I could have written the exact same post as you, that's how similar our circumstances are. I also had an MMC in February (they told me baby passed at 9+4) and I also found out only at the 12 week scan (absolutely no clue anything was wrong at all).

Now I'm pregnant again and I'm 10+3 today. I had a good scan at 9+5 last week, but I'm absolutely terrified something has gone wrong since then and I am really really scared of the 12 week scan (which is next Friday). I also have no morning sickness (I never did with either pregnancy) and lately the symptoms I do have (sore boobs, etc) have grown lighter. Another kind lady told me this is normal at around 9+5/10 weeks as the placenta takes over, but I have to admit I am still terrified!! I can't stop thinking about it.

Sending you a virtual handhold and wishing you the best of luck for your scan!! I hope this time all goes smoothly and your baby is in your arms before too long xxx.

Hi OP, I've been through similar and it also worries me this time round. The thing I keep telling myself is that once you've seen a heartbeat the risk of miscarriage goes down dramatically. I think you've got around a 98% chance of making it after seeing a heartbeat at 10 weeks.

I think going through a missed miscarriage takes away some of that trust you have that your body will tell you when something's wrong.

@GagaBinks I feel exactly the same about ‘making it up!’ We went through IVF so lots of people know about it and when they ask how I am or congratulate me I feel like a fraud. Which is ridiculous! Thank you for being so kind.

@Eggsforbreakfast12 I have told myself that I will stop worrying after this scan but my hubby doesn’t believe me! I will think about a counsellor. I tried it after the miscarriage and didn’t find it helpful, but maybe I just didn’t stick with it long enough.

@ronniemipperton @sadtoday21 I am so sorry to hear about both of your losses. It’s so heartbreaking. It’s reassuring to hear that symptoms seem to ease off around this time.

Yes I totally get to about not being able to trust your body! At my booking appointment the midwife asked if I was planning on breast feeding and I said I didn’t think I would be able to - when she asked why I had a full scale breakdown about my body being so useless and incapable!

I just want to add - thank you all for sharing your experiences with me, I appreciate it’s not always easy!

Hello 😘💐 Another lady here that knows exactly how you feel. I had a mmc last year. I found out at 12 weeks that the pregnancy had stopped progressing at 8/9 weeks. My body had given my no signs apart from continuing my symptoms. My husband and I spoke about names and birthing plans on the way to the hospital - it was the shittest time ever and despite being 35 weeks pregnant again - I don’t think i’ll ever get over it. I like you have had all the anxiety ! I had a scan at 9 weeks and all was well and then the anxiety returned before my 12 week scan. One thing I will say and what helped me was, when I got in that waiting room for my 12 week scan and sat amongst 10 or so other couples waiting for the same scan I thought - my chances are as good as theirs! Think about all the women that go in and out with good news every day. It is so nerve wrecking I completely understand - I dread scans now. But stay positive because if all is looking good now then chances are that’s exactly how it’s going to be! ❤️ Be kind to yourself as you can see from all the other lovely ladies that have commented - your not alone and feeling like this after what you have been through is completely normal xx

I read this post this morning just before I went to my 12 weeks scan! My symptoms pretty much disappeared at 10 weeks and I've been feeling really good (a little tired) so was super worried. I was terrified but everything was ok. It's useless to tell you to relax as that was not going to happen to me but try and keep the faith. xx

@Babycakes1989

Thank you so much ❤️ That was such a lovely message to read. It’s nice to know that my worries are normal. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss.

I dread scans. My friends are all excited for me and asking me about it, but I feel like I’m waiting for something dreadful to happen!

@Eggcellent29 thanks for your message, it also really helped me to read this post and know I wasn't alone in how I was feeling. You must be due in March, like me? There are a group of ladies on here that are pregnant again after MMC - you would be most welcome to join us on the Pregnancy after Miscarriage thread! Hope everything goes smoothly for you from here on out.

@Babycakes1989 thanks for sharing your story, it really helped me to read it! Xxx

Placenta takes over between week 10-12 so try not to worry about your symptoms being not as severe xx