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Hospital refusing to see me?

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TontoM · 20/08/2019 04:22

Anyone have any experience or advice here? I’m 38 weeks pregnant with twins. Hospital are refusing to scan/ consult with me this week as we’re waiting on an elective c section (not that I asked for it, the dr told me after a consultation on Thursday I was having one).

Now I’ve heard nothing about the c section or an appointment so I rang yesterday and told they were too busy to see me.

I’ve just lost my mucus plug and getting cramps and pains.

What do I do? Are they allowed to refuse? I don’t want this to end in an unnecessary emergency c section!

Been up all night worrying.

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WilsonandNoodles · 20/08/2019 04:37

Ring your own midwife and tell them your concerns. They will have a bit more power getting you seen if they think it's needed.

Tefiti2 · 20/08/2019 04:38

Can you just turn up to your local unit? I wouldn’t take no for an answer and maybe call them first to say you are coming in!

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TontoM · 20/08/2019 04:43

@WilsonandNoodles I don’t have a midwife. When they found out it was twins at 12 weeks I was turned over to hospital care (seen 15 consultants since then so don’t really have an advocate).

@Tefiti2 I think I might have to. Have a grand total of 2 hours sleep and been anxious all day yesterday over it.

I get hospitals are busy and if everyone started asking for extra check ups but I think I have a legit concern.

Thanks for replying

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PeppaNotPig · 20/08/2019 04:50

I would ring maternity unit again now explain the situation again- tell the receptionist you need to speak to a midwife urgently. I’m sure they would see you.

EugeniaGrace · 20/08/2019 04:51

Ring the labour ward? it sounds like early labour and you need advice whether to go in now because of the twins or whether you can let it progress naturally at home.

StoppinBy · 20/08/2019 05:02

Yes you outright can refuse, without a doubt it is your body and your babies. Take someone with you as an advocate for when it gets to the point where you feel like you are not strong enough to ignore them.

I had a doctor tell me that I needed to book in for a c/s, the consultation ended right there when he wouldn't back down on giving me a spiel as why I had to have one and I got up and walked out.

StoppinBy · 20/08/2019 05:03

Also. the best advice I think you can receive here is to try and calm down, fear and anxiety are the biggest problems when it comes to a successful labour and birth story.

PhoenixBuchanan · 20/08/2019 05:09

In this instance you need to call the delivery suite, not the antenatal clinic.

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TontoM · 20/08/2019 06:00

Just rang and they told me to ring clinic at 8:30 when the antenatal clinic is open but basically same as yesterday. They won’t rescan me, I’ll have to wait until before the c section (whenever that is) and they advise c section is either baby is breech. Told me to take pain killers.

Got all upset and cried on the phone. Feel so frustrated and like no one is listening to me.

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PersonaNonGarter · 20/08/2019 06:02

Go in. Just go in with your bag.

Newmumma83 · 20/08/2019 06:04

Complain that you have reduced movement ... they will scan then x

orangeshoebox · 20/08/2019 06:08

go in now

pack your bag and leave it where your family can grab it and bring it in to you.
take snacks, drinks, phone&charger, book, your notes.

good luck

Greentulip · 20/08/2019 06:09

Why aren’t you turning up to the triage?

ittooshallpass · 20/08/2019 06:09

What are you actually saying when you call them? Are you asking for a scan or letting them know you think you’ve gone into labour?

Greentulip · 20/08/2019 06:10

If you turn up will they turn you away? I don’t think they would as it would be too risky. It’s different on the phone than turning up in person.

Greentulip · 20/08/2019 06:12

Also what ittooshallpass asked^^
Hard to believe that you are calling them and telling them with you 38 weeks with twins and in pain and they are actually refusing to see you?

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TontoM · 20/08/2019 06:15

I told them I’m 38 weeks with twins, lost my mucus plug last night, having period like pains at the bottom of my bump and aches in my back. That I rang yesterday and was told they were too busy to be see me, that I was supposed to have an appointment today for bloods and a c section tomorrow that I’ve heard nothing about. That I’m worried I’m in early labor as this is my second pregnancy and I recognise the signs and that I don’t want this to end in an emergency c.

She said ring back at 8:30 when the clinic is open and take some pain killers.

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yikesanotherbooboo · 20/08/2019 06:15

If you are in early labour with twins and a medically indicated planned c section then you need the labour ward.
Antenatal clinic is only required if you are asking for an appointment or the date of your c section.
I think there may be some confusion as to what you are asking for.
A scan will be done on medical grounds and can't be requested by you but there will be a low threshold for one being done.
Why don't. You ring the labour ward explaining that you think you are in early labour and are meant to be having a c section . You can tell them how anxious you are feeling. If you feel you can wait until after 8 there will be more staff around and I am sure they will see you. Best of luck.

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TontoM · 20/08/2019 06:16

It was triage I rang btw. They said not to come in. I can’t get hold of any other department.

My bags been packed for a while, I’m going to get dressed drop my two year old off with my mum and go in. Just fed up with it now and crying which isn’t helpful.

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yikesanotherbooboo · 20/08/2019 06:16

Sorry, Cross post

Mollie3 · 20/08/2019 06:51

Well done you that is the right thing to do. As you are carrying twins you are a high risk pregnancy and as such a priority. Don’t let them fob you off. They took me seriously eventually when I said it feels like I need to ‘push’.
Don’t forget what’s at the end of all this, your beautiful babies! Go up there and be assertive, do it for them and if you have a birthing partner they can help! X

PurBal · 20/08/2019 06:54

So glad you're going in. Thoughts are with you!

pennypineapple · 20/08/2019 06:58

I'm sorry you're going through this. Do you have a DP or someone who can advocate for you? I just know in situations like this I tend to get angry and start crying which doesn't help! I hope you're able to get some answers and a plan when you get to the hospital.

ChipsAreLife · 20/08/2019 06:58

Oh you poor thing. Def go in, it's hard when they're busy but you are entitled to care! Don't let them fob you off and say you're not leaving till you've been seen.

You could always try PALs if you're getting no where, they can get things moving

Greentulip · 20/08/2019 08:08

That’s absolutely horrendous! Good luck and I hope you get seen and make a fuss if you don’t get seen. Take someone with you who can stand their ground and advocate for you. You must be so worried.

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