Another she hates me thread...

[Expectantdadben]

Not sure if this is in the right place but here's my story in a nutshell...

I'm 40, she's 34.
She has a child from an previous relationship (who I adore), I have no other children.
Been together for 6 months, live together, 3 months pregnant.

For the last 6/8 weeks she's slowly withdrawn from me and we've been bickering over nothing. I've not been as patient as I could but so always try to make up. We fell out last week over something trivial (I shouldn't have been sarcastic but couldn't help myself), haven't spoken or seen each other in a week (I've stayed at a friend's) but messaged today saying we're over.

I can still live in the house with her in separate rooms if I wish and she isn't going to exclude me from the baby (unless I dont do what she says) but don't know if I should stay and support her from the sidelines or give her space and move out (can't stand the thought of leaving).

Friends advise me to leave but I want to stay to support and be there hoping it will all resolve itself.

We had the perfect relationship to begin with but it seems hormones and depression (has been prescribed anti depressants) have gotten the better of her.

I love her to bits but she gets angry if I tell her. Tried to ask her to not finish things and got told she's not interested.

Everything I do is wrong, she finds me annoying and generally hates me.

Can anyone offer any advice please because this is all killing me!

I'll speak to the midwife because she suffered with depression before we got together and she didn't disclose it when we had the initial appointment.

I'm not sure if she's even taking the antidepressants but they've been prescribed for a reason.

And I've tried to alleviate her work stress and now contribute circa 25k a year to her so she does not need to work if she doesn't want to and can spend that on whatever she wants but that's been misconstrued as controlling🤦‍♂️

She has a wobble with her first pregnancy and was going to abort until she saw the scan... Maybe tomorrow will make a difference.

We both knew we wanted kids (albeit not so soon) but if it meant saving what we have/had I wouldn't stand in the way of termination because she's the most important thing. I can live without a baby as long as I've got her. Having a baby without her isn't what we wanted. But I'm not pushing that because If I can have her and the baby and we're all happy then that's even better. Plus I think she'd regret termination and if I was the one to push for it, she'd resent me and that's not what I want either.

At least I would speak to the midwife if she hadn't just hidden the maternity file away from me. 🤦‍♂️