Going ahead with pregnancy when not 100% sure about relationship

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Has anyone on here had an unplanned pregnancy whilst in a relationship they aren’t 100% about? My partner is kind and trustworthy and would be a good dad, however I just don’t know if he is ‘the one’ - we have been together since we were quite young so I have nothing to compare him to. We had discussed this and agreed to give our relationship some more time to see how things went and then bam - positive pregnancy test which is a result of stupidly relying on an ovulation app for contraception. Part of me thinks it’s not the worst thing in the world as I know my baby would always have a good dad no matter what and if we did split up in the future I’d always be able to meet somebody else (though I appreciate it’d be harder) - I know the grass isn’t always greener and there’s not necessarily just ‘the one’ somewhere out there waiting for me. I think of women who are in truly awful relationships or who are single and who make a success of it. I just don’t know, I’m so confused. Any thoughts/advice?

Do you want a baby?

How do you feel about a termination?

Babies have a way of showing up every crack in a relationship. They make you irritable, exhausted, and unfair and the burden of them is almost invariably borne by the woman, which shows up any existing imbalance in your roles and workloads and can cause deep resentment. If you were already iffy and, let's face it, bored with him, then I think I would probably assume that a baby will trigger the end. I mean, it's possible that both of you will fall in love anew with each other and yourselves as a family, but it's a long shot at best.

There are worse things than having an amicable co-parenting relationship with an ex who is a good dad, but blended families can be very complicated and stressful, and single parenthood is a strain. Everything comes down in the end to if you want a baby even if you end up single and feel you can cope with single parenthood. How are your finances? Job/career?