Just found out I’m pregnant and feeling so overwhelmed

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Just looking for some emotional hand holding as I’ve not told my mum or sister or anybody yet but my partner and just feel like I need some support from other women! I’ve literally today just taken a test and it’s a very strong positive which I ‘knew’ as my period was a few days late and I just sensed it. It was not planned as such and I’m feeling really overwhelmed by it all - I’m 26 (will have just turned 27 by the time the baby is due) and I know that’s a perfectly normal age to have a baby but I just feel like I’m so young/a little girl still if that makes sense. Partner and I are shortly moving into a new house so feel like there’s a lot of change going on and I get easily stressed and anxious. Partner has said he is happy but confused by how overwhelmed and panicky I seem. Please can somebody reassure me that feeling totally panicked is normal? I was thinking about doing a creative writing course but that will now of course have to wait - I’m just so panicked that this is ‘it’ for me and I’ll never be able to do all the things I want to do (writing mainly and I suppose a bit of travelling) - basically I’m just having a freak out and want to speak to someone!

I can honestly say nothing ever prepares you for having a baby and no time is ever perfect. I was 27 when I had my twins and was so overwhelmed. But what new mum isn’t? You will go through every imaginable emotion right now and it’s very normal. Being a mum doesn’t have to stop you from doing what you want. A slight delay maybe but it’s honestly the best thing in the world. Congratulations x

Breathe. You're normal! It's NORMAL to think 'OMG WTF have I done?' when you first find out you're pregnant, even if it was fully planned and 'longed for' for months or years. Give yourself a few days for the news to sink in and take some deep breaths. A house move with a baby on the way is a great plan of action as hopefully you'll have more room for your new family.

Fears and freak-outs? Absolutely, totally, 100% normal and natural. Stop putting yourself down. You've got this.

Oh, and congratulations!

Why would you have to wait to take a creative writing course? You're pregnant, not dying. Twenty-seven is a great age to have a baby.

I’m 34 and had exactly the same freak out when I found out I was pregnant!

Relax - it’s normal. You can still do your course and you can also travel - babies and kids are portable and most places you’d want to go are achievable with a family, with a few adjustments. Congratulations!

It is overwhelming especially unplanned, but remember our bodies are built to be mums, and you have over 8 months to prepare still. Talk to your mum and sister - nothing like a hug in real life. I was a little younger than you and my mum just hugged me and told me we would make it work.

You're feeling normal. People just aren't as vocal as feeling like this! I'm 10 weeks and had IVF and still thought WTF! And at one point I had a meltdown and said I regretted it all. But I did some reading and found it's normal to feel like that. Also hormones won't be helping you emotionally. I'm 32 and still feel too young. I told my mum I felt like a fake or something! Tell your mum though. Mine is a great support and tells me she felt exactly the same having me!