Anxiety through the roof.

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Hi guys. So, I posted on here about finding out I'm pregnant last week.
Now, I keep testing with pregnancy tests. All positive.
I have my first midwife appointment on monday. However, my dating scan wont be for a few weeks. Can I ask the midwife to refer me to one asap?

My anxiety is through the roof because I don't have any symptoms - Other than my apetite has risen, and I'm very emotional. All my other pregnancies, I've had really bad morning sickness. Due to previous miscarriages, I've convinced myself that the sonographer is going to tell me there's no heartbeat. That my baby has died. I've been crying over it, hardly been able to sleep due to it, and when I do sleep, I have nightmares about it.

Thank you x

Hi there. I can relate to everything your saying. In regards to your dating scan I don’t think they would bring it forward(no harm in trying if you stress your anxiety) - the only other option is to go for a private early scan if you can. I had a mmc last year and at the start of this pregnancy as soon as I got that positive test my happiness soon turned into shear panic and fear so I opted for an early scan at 8 weeks for piece of mind that the pregnancy was on the right track whilst keeping an open mind.

Symptoms - please do not worry if they are mild! I had no morning sickness at all with this pregnancy (I’m 34 weeks now) and in general felt very well. I was just slightly more tired. This added to my anxiety but when you talk to a lot of other women - some feel absolutely fine! Don’t panic! I also had major hunger though I could eat all the time! It sounds like a good sign to me!

Your anxiety about the scan is exactly how I felt leading up to my 2 - I can totally relate. My heart felt like it was going to burst out my chest as I sat waiting - but please know your chances of a successful pregnancy each time are higher. Breath and know that what will be will be - everything will happen for a reason. This helped me - my anxiety before my 12 week scan was out of control. But as soon as I got to the waiting room and sat amongst maybe 9/10 other women all sat their waiting for their scans I thought - what makes my chances any slimmer than these women?? Think how many women go in for scans every day an come out with a positive story! As I sat there I kept thinking I’ve had a Mc before and this baby could be absolutely fine. And he was and I burst into tears once again as I got on the bed!

My tips for your anxiety - you are braver and stronger than you think. A woman who is pregnant again a after a miscarriage(or any other type of loss) is incredible brave and strong to be in that position again. You will battle through trust me. I suffer anxiety too and I still get it now. It will come on waves. Don’t ever be afraid to try and talk to your nearest and dearest about your feelings and more importantly look after yourself! Pamper yourself do your favourite things and eat your favourite things!! Distract distract distract!! Go for a nice long walk, I always found this help to rationalise my negative sometimes outrageous thoughts!

Sorry for the essay it’s just I read your post and reading it back I could of wrote this at the begging of the year when I was waiting for my scan. You will be ok I promise ❤️💐x

@Babycakes1989 - Thank you so much. Your comment has put my mind at ease a little.

It's so difficult isn't it when you have anxiety and you can't help but think something will go wrong. I've taken yet another test again today - Still positive, so I guess that's a good sign?

Thank you again, and Don't apologise for the long reply 😊 x

Of course it’s a good sign!! Your deffo pregnant and that’s all that matters ❤️😘 I’m glad I can help a little. Your never ever alone so many women feel this way & its completely natural. Sending you loads of luck and baby dust. Xx

Congratulations on your new BFP! I know the feeling, after a MMC it takes away the enjoyment of pregnancy with all the anxious thoughts and worrying etc. When I got my BFP after MMC I was excited but worrying already and cant exactly say the worrying has left me to be honest by time it come to my 12 week scan I had total of 4 scans which I had paid for as they were only thing that made me relax. I am now 14+4 and I still get anxious now but I guess this wont leave until I feel movement. I like what previous poster said about what made her more likely to have bad news out of all them woman waiting for scans which is the mentality you should hold on too as it's so true - new egg and new sperm this time.

If I were you and you can afford treat yourself to a private scan in a couple of weeks.
Wish you all the best 🌸

Also forgot to mention.. I have had hardly any symptoms the whole way through, if I had seen baby so many times on scan I would actually wonder If i were pregnant

Hey.

I 100% know how you are feeling. I had a MMC in May. It was the worst. But when I went to EPU for treatment they said I could go in whenever I wanted next time I was PG for reassurance.
They are open 24 hours and they book scans in ASAP for you.

That's my only comment to add, I think the previous posters have offered lots of wonderful insight.

X

I booked a private scan through ultrasound direct online. They have places all over that you can book at. An early scan was £70 and for the amount it reassured me was worth every penny. Hope you get your reassurance soon

Yes a private scan is great. But also depends how far you are ? They won't scan u TIL your 6 weeks because they won't be able to see much u TIL then. If you wait until about 6 weeks and a few days then you will most likely see a heart beat.
I would also ask midwife if she can get you an early one too!
I had two mc's and iv had two nhs scans so far and I'm 11 wks xx

Thank you guys for all your lovely words. Sorry for the late reply. My app isn't working properly.

I have my first midwife appointment tomorrow, and she is going to refer me for a dating scan asap as I dont know how far I am - My periods are irregular. Going by the clear blue digital, I would be at least 6 weeks this week. So I should be around 7/8 weeks when I get the scan through. Maybe even more depending on when it comes through.

It is very difficult to keep a positive mindset knowing what happened last time. But your replies definitely give me hope. I will keep you all updated xxx