Pricey baby shower present

[Baby2nov2019]

Hi All, my BF is throwing me a baby shower for my second baby in September before she goes traveling. I’ve got a mix of two groups of friends who don’t really get on too well coming and although it’ll be lovely when we’re all together (was last time) I’m nervous as she’s asked if there’s a specific present we’d like as we’re having a second girl, so have LOTS of clothes from our first LG.
There’s only actually 2 things we want/need- being a new changing bag (£20 Amazon) or I would really love a newborn baby swing, which is £75. I feel AWFUL asking people to contribute to a present like this, but she says people will probably be happier transferring her £10 for the present then trawling the shops. I just feel super uncomfortable, but I also know there’s a bit of me that doesn’t feel like I’m worth that of my friends 😑 what does everyone else think mumsnet? Would like to know if I’m being weird and hormonal x

I think your bf is right. Say you have 10 friends coming - that means that if they each give your bf £10 then all together they have bought you both specific things you want/need. Rather than a £10 pack of bodysuits (that you don't need) or £15 outfit (that you don't need) or a couple of £7 books (that you probably already have and don't need.) I always feel a bit awkward in situations like that too - "you must buy me x present!" - but it is genuinely easier for your guests.
And BTW - you are worth lots and lots!

I would love to know I was contributing to something the Mum actually wanted! I think it’s a fab idea :)

I'd rather give £10 or a £10 gift card toward sow thing that's actually going to be used than spend £10 on something you don't need or want. It's fine to ask for that. I'd just get your friend to say "if you'd like to buy a gift baby2 would like a contribution towards baby swing" when she invites everyone

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If you feel bad or cheeky asking for the whole baby swing why not ask for a voucher for the shop where you can buy it from. Btw I agree with your friend, I’d much rather get you something you want than a load of toot!

Agree w what everyone says. So much easier to contribute towards a gift.

Thanks everyone! Think the hormones are hitting hard! Over thinking ❤️ Thanks xxx

I would feel better knowing I was contributing to something you really want/need than getting something that might not even get used! I'm in the same position as you, having my second baby girl and don't really need much x

£75 split between a group is nothing! Most people would spend somewhere around £20 on an individual gift, so they'll probably be happy to contribute less and get you something you actually want and need!

Having a baby shower is basically asking for presents anyway, so you may as well ask for contributions to a larger item that you need or want, it’s economical sense.