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Prenatal depression

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 19:12

My friends very nicely told me to look this up as she feels I am displaying signs of it.

Yes I’ve not had the easiest of starts due to the father but I thought the crying etc and over silly things was just hormones and perfectly normal. Yes I’m tired, easily irritated (but can be normal for me!!)

I am anxious. I constantly feel like there is something wrong with my baby. I’ve not had any symptoms (bar heartburn) and I’m not showing yet. I thought I felt movement the other day but was just like one pop.

I said I just feel like I’m not enjoying this pregnancy and I don’t know why. She said because of that idiot (well she didn’t use that word!!). I said I think I will feel better when I can feel movement and actually look pregnant because at the moment I don’t. She just says she worries about me.

How do you decipher prenatal depression from just all the normal pregnancy hormones etc.

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lonelyheartsclubband · 10/08/2019 19:17

Didn't want to read an run but I think I'm currently going through prenatal depression.

I'm 22 weeks. I was also finding it difficult to balance whether it was hormones or not. That being said, I do suffer with mental health issues and had psychosis with my last child.

I wouldn't say I'm constantly upset, but over the last week I've had an overwhelming feeling of emptiness and when I think about the baby I feel nothing but dread and panic at the moment. I didn't start of feeling this way. It also wasn't made easy by the baby's father either.

Hand hold for you. 🌸

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 10/08/2019 19:21

I had Prenatal Depression with my younger daughter. Very supportive and loving husband and otherwise fine but I had HG which I think started it. By 20 weeks was having awful anxiety and panic attacks. I suspect it’s as much hormonal as anything else. Please go and see your GP. Mine couldn’t help me fast enough and a course of antidepressants really helped me.

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 20:00

I don’t think it helps at this early stage as well there’s big gaps between appointments. So I had my 16w one and now I don’t see my mw until 25 weeks! I have a consultant appointment on the 19th and 20 weeks scan 23rd.

My friend knows what I’m like for just pulling my socks off and getting on with it so she thinks I’m just painting on a brave face.

It’s weird as I don’t feel depressed. But I constantly fear that because this is my third child and I’m not showing or feeling the baby yet something is wrong! This is heightened by people saying “oooooo no bump yet I showed very quickly on my third!” Etc etc xx

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lonelyheartsclubband · 10/08/2019 20:20

I'm also on my third and get the same. In a state of worry the whole time that something was wrong. I felt movements with my second as soon as 14 weeks. But with this one I felt nothing until about 18. I ended up paying for a private scan at 16 weeks to put my mind at rest.

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 20:40

@lonelyheartsclubband I’ve had one already 🙄 and now because of the gap between that and my next appointment the worry sets back in! I’ve been told the consultant wont do heart beat or anything only urine and bp but I might say I’m I’m getting in a right tizz can you please just listen to put my mind at ease. X

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 20:43

Hardly anyone knows of my pregnancy as well. Because of the circumstances with the father I’ve not been proud to share it. I also know of 8 other friends due in January and I’ve watched their announcements and reveals on Fb and I’m jealous that that’s not me. I feel I’m letting him ruin it for me. I think when I’ve had my 20week scan and hopefully have sex confirmed ill start telling people maybe xx

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lonelyheartsclubband · 10/08/2019 21:36

I ended up buying a Doppler. I know people advise people not to use them, but I knew how to hear the differences in sounds to make sure it was the heartbeat I heard.

I recognise your username... did you post another thread a little while back?

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 22:42

@lonelyheartsclubband yes I’ve posted in quite a few lol. I think it would make me worse but it has crossed my mind at points! Xx

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DaisyMay25 · 10/08/2019 22:58

@Starlight84 i would either go to your doctor or bring it up with your consultant. I brought up my mental health worries at my 16 week midwife appointment (I have a history of depression and anxiety) I was having panic attacks at work and I'm just failing to bond with baby at all.
Pregnant women get fast tracked, after four weeks of my midwife referring me I've got a lovely nurse coming round next week from the perinatal team to go through a plan with me and help me with what I need.
I'm also guilty of Doppler use but it hasn't helped me bond, hasn't helped me stop thinking something will go wrong either.

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Starlight84 · 10/08/2019 23:36

I have no worries I won’t bond with the baby. I’ve longed for a baby boy! I just hate how I worry something is wrong all the time. It’s driving me mad! @DaisyMay25 I’m glad to hear that you are getting the help in place. I will definitely mention it to them when I see them x

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