Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Eggcellent29]

Hello everyone

Is anyone else out there pregnant after a miscarriage?

I saw happy healthy baby at 10 weeks but the fear of a miscarriage is dominating my life. It feels like it’s all I think about and it’s really bringing me down. I sob over it every day at least once.

My first baby died before 8 weeks (found out at scan so was missed) so I’m well past that point but it hasn’t made me feel any better!

I’d really love to hear how other people keep their fear in check!

Didn’t want to read and run. Miscarriage robs you of all naivety and relaxation in relation to pregnancy. The internet is not often your friend.

We’re just under 8 weeks but lost the last one at 5 weeks. Even seeing the heartbeat doesn’t help when you have the internet as you read about people who have seen a heartbeat and then go on to lose it.

No point in saying don’t worry or try and forget about it bcos it’s impossible. All I can say is try and take each day at a time and that you’re not alone on this nervous journey.

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy. Xx

Hi OP,

Sorry about your loss, and congratulations!!!

Really I don't think anyone pregnant after loss will ever be able to relax and enjoy it straight away, it makes you so anxious.

I had a MMC found at scan where baby died just before 8 weeks too. I'm now 14 weeks pregnant and everything is fine.

The risk has dropped dramatically now you have seen hb at 10 weeks!!
I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy.

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at about the same stage as yours. It was many years ago now, but it cast a very long shadow.

A couple of months after the miscarriage I became pregnant with my DD1, who is now 24 years old. I don't think I really did keep the fear in check. I spent the entire pregnancy refusing to believe that the baby I was carrying was real. I thought that the moment I actually let myself believe, even a tiny bit, I was sure to miscarry again. So I was in a sort of denial throughout, and I bought very little for the baby until very near to the expected delivery date, when I absolutely had to. I became batshit superstitious about it.

Hard to explain. I was delighted to be having a baby, but I tried to protect myself against potential hurt by not letting myself believe in her, even when I saw her on the scanner and could feel her moving. I even managed to be shocked that I actually gave birth to a baby at the end of it. I was shell shocked and took a long time to bond with her.

It sounds crazy, doesn't it? It is a crazy and batshit type of logic.

If you are feeling any of this then you aren't alone. I think it is very common amongst women who have miscarried. The next pregnancy, even if ultimately uneventful and successful, can be a worrying and tense time.

Oh, and I should have wished you a smooth and successful pregnancy too. The odds are still stacked in your favour, so everything crossed for you here.

Hi @Eggcellent29

Congratulations on your pregnancy ❤️ there are lots of us on this thread who are all pregnant following miscarriage:

Graduates of TTC after pregnancy loss thread #3 🐧🐧The Penguin Huddle 🐧🐧 its a great support.

I am only 4+5 following a missed miscarriage in April (after over a year unsuccessfully ttc) so very much new to this and getting a lot of support from the others there. But one thing I am doing is reminding myself that today I am pregnant and it does help me take one day at a time xx

Congratulations on your new pregnancy. Totally understand how your feeling, it's easy to say dont worry about it and try relax etc but you wont , you'll still worry. I had 3 scans before I had my 12 weeks scan and after each one i would read the miscarriage statistics at that week, I would get comfort for a few days and then the worrying would come back. It's only really since my 12 week scan last week that I an allowing my self to relax but I still get thoughts which I try and push to the back of my head.

As someone has said the odds are in your favour now that you have seen a heartbeat. I genuinely wish you all the best and hope you have a healthy happy pregnancy

Thank you all so much for your understanding and such personal responses. I would never wish a miscarriage on anyway, but reading your experiences has made me feel like I’m not alone and my worrying isn’t weird etc.