Help! Second unplanned...

[Quinn4089]

Hi everyone,

So to keep a long story short (as I can)...known my OH since we were 15, been together almost 6 years now. Our DS (now 2yo) was unplanned and tbh my pregnancy was tough as OH wanted an abortion but I couldn’t....

And now history is repeating itself, I’ve had a lot going on lately and didn’t want extra hormones in my system from birth control and OH was fully aware of this. Haven’t been feeling great this week, 4 days late on AF and a test has just shown up faint positive. I’m freaking out.

Always wanted more then 1 baby, but to make this whole situation harder, about 6 weeks ago my OH said he wasn’t sure he wanted to be with me anymore.

I guess I just need to get all this down - I have zero idea what to do, scared to tell him, scared of peoples judgements given circumstances, scared of being called stupid for this happening again....

I’m torn. My DS is the best thing that ever happened to me. What do I do 😭

If you wanted another baby anyway, you may as well continue the pregnancy. In future ensure you use a barrier method (e.g. condoms) if you aren't going to take hormonal contraception....

@Quinn4089 first of all no one is in a position to judge you.

You say 6 weeks ago your partner said he wasn't sure he wanted to be with you. And that’s before he knows you are pregnant. What do you think his reaction will be when he finds out?

If you feel like you could do it alone if he wants no part of the baby then go for it. Especially if you have always wanted more than one child. Do you think he would come round to the idea?

My partner walked away when I told him I wouldn’t/couldn’t abort my baby so I’m facing this challenge alone. If you have just found out give yourself a couple of days to try and fathom it! Although I’m in my 18th week and I’m still trying to work out what on earth I’m doing! I know deep down I’m doing the right thing though xx