Stupid, ignorant comments

[WerdyBear]

I am 3 months pregnant and I am sick to the back teeth of people asking me hurtful things such as, 'you sure there's not two in there', 'dont take this the wrong way but you're very big for 3 months', 'that's going to be a big baby isnt it', 'are you sure youre not 6 months', 'remember it has to come out'. How do people cope with such comments?! I am struggling and not enjoying my pregnancy. Everytime i leave the house im anxious for what people will say! Why do people say such nasty shit!? PLEASE dont say these things to any pregnant lady!

@shazchip glad I'm not alone. Many more things to get annoyed about than silly innocuous comments. If you don't like them, ignore and move on.

Perhaps where i work and being one of 3 preggos who are all due within a week of each other means my view is different. And we all just take the piss or of everything here, being pregnant makes for fair game.

I think people just run out of things to say and want to look like they have some knowledge from their child rearing days (they will have forgotten it all). I had an enormous bump and a 7lb 2 baby.

In laws continued to be obsessed with his size as he grew. (My OH comes from a family of giants). My favourite comments were from my in- laws after the birth telling me how much he looked like his dad. They kept going on about how long he was, even though he'd measured on the 9th percentile and was at one point as a toddler was nearly referred to a paediatrician for growth.

As there aren't any other children in the family to compare him with, they continued to believe he was tall until attending his fourth birthday party and realising he was the shorter than all his friends. They have finally dropped their obsession with his 'tall genes'. So strap yourself in, it's a long ride of unhelpful comments coming your way!

Totally agree @shazchip!

Midwives: "You look small, have you gone for any scans yet?" (Bump was measuring fine, bang on correct cm, I'm just tall). And yet....

DM: "Gosh, I was never as large as you are when I was pregnant with you." Thanks mother dearest, great way to make me anxious about the possibility of gestational diabetes for no reason whatsoever (baby was a normal size, see above).

People should just not comment.

It's the tone of it rather than the comments themselves I find. I also thought I hated people commenting on my size but then had a conversation with a woman who was so complimentary of my big bump and I loved it!

😂👏🏻so glad I’m not the only one. I’m nearly 34 weeks with my first and I get ‘your not very big are you’, ‘where’s the baby bump?!’ Oh and more recently, your bump isn’t very hard is it. I would never say anything like that to anyone let alone a pregnant woman who’s hormones are elevated anyway and I’ve always been sensitive around pregnant women in the past and have instead chosen to compliment them on their glow and how well they look. Brainless people!!

“Don’t go having that baby on us” whilst just standing at the office door about to ask a question.

At 21 weeks, which is actually a really insensitive comment to make because the likelihood is, that the baby wouldn’t receive medical assistance/survive had I actually gone into labour 🤦🏼‍♀️

Then there was the “ohhhh look at you getting fat”

Ermmm last time I checked it’s a 13oz baby not fattttt. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Both comments from my senior 🤷‍♀️

I also had the “oh you shouldn’t exercise during pregnancy” when I was training with a trainer qualified in pre natal exercise.

And everyone was interested in my diet.

Fuck off and let me eat the crisps.

"Are you sure it's not twins?"
"You're so big"
My partners mum "It doesn't look like a bump you just look like you've put on weight"

and my personal favourite which I've been asked far too many times, "Was it planned?"

Oh & remember don't eat too much, you need to lose the baby weight

I’ve got another one ladies and I feel bit upset by this one 😕 a friend said to me yesterday she’s not buying me a gift for my baby shower and she would rather wait until the baby is here as sometimes bad things happen as she once bought another friend baby stuff and the worst case scenario happened. It’s not the gift bit that upsets me it’s that she knows I’ve suffered from bad anxiety this pregnant following a missed miscarriage last year. It set my mind in overdrive again and just wasn’t what I was expecting! X