Just found out I'm pregnant! So confused!

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I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant with my 3rd child. I'm completely shocked. Wasn't expecting it, nor was I planning on having any more and I'm not sure what to do. My partner is really sweet and says he doesn't mind he will stand by me no matter what and he doesn't want to tell me what to do with my body. Even though I would like some kind of statement from him on what he would like to do.
I am so confused. My family would be very upset about it. We only have a 2 bed house. However, money isn't really a problem. We both work. My partner full time, me part time.
Part of me would love another baby. Another part of me is just worrying about every little thing.
I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just need someone to talk to. But thank you for reading x

If you've literally only just found out you are probably in a bit of shock still. Give yourself a few days to process things and see how you feel. x

I didn't want to read and run.
I am in early pregnancy with my 3rd too, and ours was planned yet I am still very shocked.
I don't know about you but it feels like a massive thing having a 3rd, is that what you are worried about?
I am worried about what family members will say too even though they knew we wanted another. I feel like I'm on a emotional rollercoaster at the moment.
Hope you are feeling ok, I'm sure you'll start processing it soon

Thank you guys. I definitely still am in shock. One minute I'm looking at my tummy thinking "wow. I've actually got a tiny human forming in there" next I'm crying my eyes out thinking "what am I going to do?!". I have a weird feeling that my partner doesn't want the baby. But he denies it. Just says he will stick by me. I dont know if it's just me overthinking or if I truly think it. If that makes sense? I'm up and down all the time. So stressful.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Xx

Congratulations to you too!

Even if your partner isn't keen on the idea as soon as the baby arrives he will be over the moon, how can you not be.
And really you just make things work don't you, I really believe everything happens for a reason.
You never know it might be our crazy pregnancy brains making think one thing one minute and another crazy thing the next.
You might start thinking clearly when the hormones calm down a bit.
When are you due?

Thank you! He changed his tune last night. Asking all sorts of questions. "What pram shall we get?" "When do you wanna tell people?" "I hope it's a boy" "We need a bigger car" 😂. He told me today he wants to keep it. So I'm a little bit less nervous about everything now. But it still seems strange. I'm not sure when I'm due. I haven't seen a midwife or anything yet. I will get a letter within the next 2 weeks and then a dating scan as my periods are irregular so not even sure when my last was as I decided to stop tracking them Haha. What about you? xxx

Aww that's really good news!! He just needed time to process them didn't he, good you aren't feeling nervous about it now.
You'll have to let me know when you are due, what made you do a test then?
I'm due on the 10th April, so very early. Earliest I've ever found out, something in my head was telling me to do a test..so weird haha x

Not a criticism, but a genuine query...:
Why would what families think come into it? Is it a big deal to go from two children to three? Does that seem extravagant in some scenes? Is there a big age gap between the children?

I ask because, when I got pregnant (my first) this year and we told DHs family, they were all really shocked, in a ‘how will you manage’ way...DH has two children, but they aren’t mine. Like it was some sort of accident or disaster! I was quite offended that they seemed to think we may have made a mistake, so defensively waded in with ‘we have been trying for aaaaggeeeesss!’

Unless your family give you cash /free childcare then what they think is matterless. Imo.. Congratulations on dc3!!

I'm debating having a 3rd and I also worry about what people will think. 1 is fine, 2 seems the norm but 3 is a little bit extravagant (not my opinion but what i think others feel).

I've heard the saying that either the really wealthy or the really poor have more than two children...and I wouldn't say we're either!!

Congratulations op! But why would your family be upset at a third baby? 😕

@EjWill thank you! I had no symptoms or anything. But because my periods are irregular, I do a few every month. That's why we are both so shocked lol! I really didn't expect it. If I hadn't done a test, I still wouldn't know now. Still no symptoms! Xx

In regards to my family, I feel like they will be disappointed. I don't know. It could be my overthinking that's causing me to think that way. It's more my mum than anyone else. She's so opinionated. I just don't want to fall out with anyone xxx

@Hawkinsfirefly99 don't worry about other people and what they will think.
Just think to yourself would you regret not having one more.
Everyone told me to wait a couple more years to have our 3rd, with our boys being 3 and 1..so they are going to be pleased when we tell them the news 😂

Congratulations and please don't let other peoples views bother you. Who cares what your family thinks and if they choose to fall out with you tell them to do one.
This is YOUR body, YOUR life and YOUR family. Nothing else matters x

Congratulations. I am the oldist of 6 and I know of someone who is the youngest of 8. Every family and relationship is different all that matters is how the two of you are feeling . Am so happy for you both

Hi really sorry to comment here if inappropriate but I haven’t worked out how to use this site quite yet and didn’t know how to start my own post. Last Thursday 01/08 I had my faint positive test, I continued testing for a few days and began to panic as lines were not getting any darker (using Morrison’s tests each time). I convinced myself I am having a chemical pregnancy. Then I bought some cheap strip tests from eBay and used 2 with my FMU Tuesday morning, negative not the slightest line so I come to terms with it being over. Then this morning (Thursday 1 week from first positive test) I done another cheap eBay test with fmu and although faint there was a obvious positive. Now I am really confused I gave up on the idea but now I think there could be the slightest bit of hope, my period was due 03/08 so 5 days agosad

@Warrior9 is there anyway you could get first Response test? They will give you an accurate reading

@EjWil thank you, everywhere I go they are out of stock and I think if I order online them by the time it comes I may aswell wait it out to see I bleed as I have read chemical pregnancy’s usually start bleeding around 1 week after a positive test which would be today 😩

@Warrior9 I found that actually a week ago when I wanted the first response, I was looking everywhere because they seemed to be sold out.
Well I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you 😘