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Silly question.. when did you start..

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PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 07/08/2019 02:53

Holding/touching your bump/belly.

I was out with family the other day and had one of the normal stretching pains in my lower belly, semi-subconciously I out my hand to my belly.. like you would naturally with any discomfort?

My sister rolled her eyes at me and said "ugh you're one of 'those' pregnant people"

I asked her what she meant and she said I'm one of those pregnant people that hold their belly even when there is nothing to show and no reason to.

Now I feel really self conscious as sometimes I like to lie in bed with my hand on my tummy just because.. why not?!

So my question.. when do you start holding and touching your belly? I find myself consciously avoiding it now she has pointed it out

I'm coming up to 17 weeks.

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IdaBWells · 07/08/2019 03:04

I have no idea and I wouldn't take a blind bit of notice of anyone criticizing you touching your own body, especially when you're growing a baby which is incredible. Do what comes naturally. I have 3 kids and I was oblivious to how much I touched their bumps! This seems to have become a recent thing.

WishingILivedOnAnIsland · 07/08/2019 03:08

Your sister sounds painful. Do whatever feels right to you.

Welcome to motherhood, where everyone has an opinion on every decision you make!

Tune her out and enjoy your baby.

FairyDust92 · 07/08/2019 03:37

Urgh, your sister sounds delightful. Actually she sounds bitter.
I touched my belly from the second I knew I was pregnant not because it was 'oh look at me' but because i knew my little bean was in there ☺️. No one has the right to tell you when you can/can't touch your bump. You enjoy your bump and give your bump as much TLC as you bloody well like and don't listen to the opinion of others. Cherish your bump because you miss it when it's gone. I miss mine 😂

BobTheFishermansWife · 07/08/2019 03:40

I rubbed my belly when ever there was any stretching pain, so probably pretty early on, and I didn't show until 28 weeks.
However, I'm one of those people that usually has their hands on their stomach, laying in bed, sat on the sofa, walking around the shops. It's generally a comfy place to put my hand.
I honestly wouldn't take a blind bit of notice and do what's comfy. Plus driving does help the pain. Congratulations btw.

Anothertempusername · 07/08/2019 03:42

I held / touched my bump all of the time. Constantly, from as soon as it appeared. It was an instinct thing to me, and if anyone had mentioned it I would've told them I was growing an actual human being that I have to keep alive and fuck off if they didn't like me touching my own body. And the next time they played with their hair or something similar I would say "urgh why are you touching yourself" so that they could see what a twat they really were.

devilishlygood · 07/08/2019 06:37

Sounds like your sister is maybe a bit jealous that someone else has got some attention...?! It happens. Ignore it. Do what you like!!!

user1199 · 07/08/2019 07:02

Pregnancy goes so fast, embrace that bump, enjoy it rub it Stoke it whenever the hell you like. Ignore the sister!

Danni91 · 07/08/2019 07:15

From the moment I found out & im overweight and I dont care, people can think I'm nursing a baby or a full roast dinner but it's only a precious 9 months out of the 90 years in hoping to be on the planet and I'm gonna cherish every second.

Your sister is jealous I would assume. Is she trying / longing for a baby at all?

You go be one of 'those' pregnant people you will not regret it but you may regret holding back!

PixieLumos · 07/08/2019 07:23

When it appeared I suppose and then more when DC started to move - but there’s no rules as far as I’m concerned. You’re sister’s being a bit mean.

ronniemipperton · 07/08/2019 07:23

My midwife encouraged me to start doing during my first appointment (at 8 weeks!). Felt a bit weird then but completely normal now. It’s good for bonding, apparently. So ignore your sister :)

Falafel19 · 07/08/2019 07:29

I never did, I find it really odd tbh. Whatever about holding it if there's a pain or discomfort the constant stroking some women do really weirds me out, you would never just sit stroking any other part of your body continously.

Blueeyedblondie · 07/08/2019 08:21

I rub my belly whenever I instinctively have the need to, one of the girls I work with told me to leave it alone one day, I just ignored her and carried on, she's not said anything since. It's my belly and my baby, ill give it a rub if I want! I think I started rubbing about 16 weeks when the fluttering started. Ignore your sister and do what you want and need to do

aliensprig · 07/08/2019 08:46

Sounds like your sister has some serious jealousy issues 🙃 ignore her, carry on!

DamnShesaSexyChick · 07/08/2019 08:49

I don't think I ever did

HayzCo · 07/08/2019 08:54

My boss said this me to. I do it when the baby moves subconsciously and I think it’s lovely. This won’t be the first or last time we have to ignore comments about how we as mothers make other people feel!

user1493413286 · 07/08/2019 08:56

Has she been pregnant? I’m under 12 weeks and I do it at home to bond with my baby. I don’t do it outside the home but with my first I used to rest my hand on my baby when she’d move when I was out and about. Nobody else’s business other than mine to be honest and I think it’s mean spirited to have an attitude against it

VapeVamp12 · 07/08/2019 10:44

Sounds like the same rubbish my sister would come out with!
In my blue notes book it says to bond by talking and touching it quite early! I’m overweight so feel a bit silly cradling my fat but I do it without really noticing when I’m sitting at work or in bed. I’m 23 weeks.

Angelinthenightx · 07/08/2019 11:05

Im always touching holding mine lol im 27wks now ,your sister sounds jealous that your pregnant. Enjoy your bump while u have it, never mind what people say x

momo01 · 07/08/2019 12:51

I loved cradling my tummy from the minute we found out I was pregnant. Don't take any notice, cradle away. Congratulations!

Hmmmbop · 07/08/2019 12:53

I didn't unless due to pain/ discomfort but there's nothing wrong with doing it. Ignore your sister.

Croquembou · 07/08/2019 13:03

I honestly didn't know this was a think until Meghan Markle was getting a load of stick in the papers for touching her bum.

I really don't understand why women are so weird to each other sometimes. Enjoy your bump - fuck other people, you're not hurting or impacting on their life in any way.

Croquembou · 07/08/2019 13:04

Meghan Markle was touching her bump, obviously. I think touching her bum would have been reasonable to comment on

bobble53 · 07/08/2019 14:17

I’m 23 weeks and it’s a bit of an instinctive thing now. Last week I was at a gig and coming down from the balcony and held my bump, I have no idea why but it seems almost protected if I fell! 🙈

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PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 07/08/2019 18:25

Shes 16, never been pregnant and has no desire to have children. Very much opinionated little shite sometimes but this one got to me abit.

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cocomelon23 · 07/08/2019 18:33

I never did this. It never occurred to me to do it. It makes me cringe a bit when I see women doing it but I'd never say it to them.

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