Anyone else completely lost their sex drive?

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Ever since I fell pregnant it’s like it’s gone off like a switch! Mainly because I was so sick and feeling so queasy and exhausted for three months, but now I just feel gross and like a slug.

Hoping for a dose of hormones soon that brings it back to life! I keep reading posts by pregnant women who are still at it on the daily and it makes me feel sad!

Just me then 😂

You're not alone! I'm 33w and we've only done it a handful of times during my pregnancy due to awful morning sickness and then terrible aches and pains that have left me needing physio.

DH is extremely understanding and hasn't even really tried it on as he knows I feel like crap. I've initiated it the few times I've felt vaguely ok, more to have that intimacy than because I actually felt in the mood.

I don't think either of us is too fussed as we know it won't be forever.

Nope, mines on the missing list. Had a precarious start to the pregnancy which meant I was too nervous, now I feel like a whale with a sore back and just want to snuggle my pregnancy pillow and have back rubs.

I feel sorry for DP and make the effort sometimes, but meh...

Oh relieved it’s not just me.
Every time I do think about initiating it just feels awkward now because it’s been so long! And I feel so unattractive even though dh always tells me I’m gorgeous 😳 which is very sweet but absolutely not accurate!
I struggle to feel sexy at the best of times
So when I’m feeling like a whale even less so.

I guess I’m just worried as I don’t imagine we are going to feel like it much with a new baby!

I’m only 17 weeks as well!

32 weeks and we've done it once. I was the exact same last pregnancy too and it's OK. Some people get an increase in sex drive and others get a complete stop. It's just one of those things.
Thankfully, although my husband isn't happy about it, he understands that I am carrying a baby and my body is changing and my hormones are all over the place. It's just not something that is on my mind at all.

Thanks frizzy. I think I just need to accept it is what it is and not beat myself up about it (Dh hasn’t mentioned it bless him and has been lovely and affectionate without any pressure) it’s just me!

Not necessarily a loss of drive but me and my DH are so tired that we have dropped to once a week/10 days and the spontaneity is gone - I've taken to saying "I'm having a nap so I'll be lovely for shenanigans later" and even then it doesn't always pan out! Once we get going, it's fine but I find choosing sex over sleep is a very tough decision (especially now I have a bad back as well!).
If you really aren't feeling it, just don't do it! But keep communication open with DH about how you are feeling so he understands too :) and it's only temporary.

Yep mines completely gone lol, my husband is feeling sorry for himself and taking it quite hard that I don't feel like it at all

Hi me too I'm 22 weeks I was told not to have sex in first trimester as of high risk of miscarriage so once we were out of the woods it had been a while it just felt awkward my husband doesn't like having sex with a baby in there 🤪 and I just plain don't want to it hurts inside sorry tmi. I really miss the intimacy though we are trying to manage like teenagers who don't go all the way 😂 but even that isn't great as after orgasim I get abdominal pain. It's a sad state of affairs 🙄

My partner and I haven't did it since April lol. I had terrible pgp and he didn't like the thought of giving the baby dimples, so it was fine. Now 2 weeks post birth and it is the last thing were thinking of. Looking forward to climbing him like a tree when I'm back on form haha

I've still got my sex drive but the tiredness and hip/back pain make it harder, plus I don't want anything hitting my cervix. We've found some positions that work but it's definitely not as regular as pre-pregnancy.

Sleep is winning every time for me!!!😂

THANK YOU. You’ve made me feel so much better!

I have 3 kids and totally lost all desire as soon as I became pregnant with all of them. I was exhausted and had nausea. At the time I could not have cared less if we never did the deed again. Things will improve eventually!

Mine’s gone completely - I’m 34 weeks with DC3, and I think DH and I have DTD twice since I’ve been pregnant
It’s not that I’m grossed out by the idea of sex or anything like that. It just seems like a hell of a lot of physical effort and I’m not willing to put that effort in
Luckily, DH is very understanding and has seen how much I’m struggling with pain in my hips this time around so hasn’t got a sulk on abojt it.
Give it a few weeks and I’ll probably be begging him to climb aboard, purely because sex is what got my last two babies out