Feeling pathetic in pregnancy. Anyone else?

[Leleophants]

Moan alert. Who else is with me?

28 weeks and feeling the 3rd trimester strain. Go from struggling at work and needing time off (and feeling really pathetic about this - especially as everyone has their own strong opinions on the easy/hard parts of pregnancy!) Then the next minute I'm frustrated as I feel like work have almost 'ruled me out' and make comments about me not coming back. And the thing is I'm off for pregnancy related illness - I am very capable of doing my job!

If I don't come back it'll be because they're not supportive, not because I don't want my own job and independence.

DMother doesn't get why I find it hard when she clearly was wonderwoman when pregnant 🙄 and MIL is sweet but seems to go the other way and think I need to give up work and lie on a bed all day because pregnant women are clearly all useless and shouldn't work!

Everything just makes me feel worse! Moan over. Who's next?

Maybe just me then!

Not at all just you ! I'm way behind you, at 15 weeks and I'm a mess constantly. I have been off work for ages as well with HG/ constant nausea.

I literally cannot do anything. Everything is hard and I also feel completely written off by work and it's horrible.

Everyone's pregnancy is different. Some women just suffer more than others. Don't feel bad about it. It's not the time for a stiff upper lip. I think it's important as much as we can to just try to stay positive and as upbeat as possible for our babies. I believe in just saying F** it. I'm doing my best and will continue doing so and others opinions of my life have no impact on my wellbeing and mood. Life is too short to worry about it.

Obviously this is so hard to do at all times and I can't, but I try to practice it as much as I can. So don't worry about anyone and just look after yourself and your baby !

I think I felt very differently about pregnancy until I became pregnant. And everyone's (and each one) pregnancy experience is different!

17 weeks and everyday is a struggle, December can't come quick enough!

Nice to know I'm not alone. Let's hang in their ladies!

28 weeks here too! Been absolutely fine at work until I broke up for summer and now I'm crippled with back pain (apparently baby is exacerbating an old injury) and no idea how I'll go back to school until 18th October - I have physio next week which will hopefully help. Not only that but I've had horrendous exhaustion this whole time, completely lost all fitness (used to run, now I'm limited to gentle walks and aquanatal) and to be honest, I am frustrated with how pathetic my body is being! Everyone keeps telling me it's normal and take it easy, "of course I've had to stop running" etc but many women carry on all pregnancy so why not me?! It's hard when mentally, I'm annoyed at myself and my body.
I use running and exercise to help my mental health so this has been very tricky. And then I get more annoyed when plenty of people have complaints that are much more serious and valid than mine but it still matters to me. Just trying to look at it as all temporary.

Sorry, got derailed there! Just do what you need to do to get through and don't listen to work, it'll be their loss if they push you away just because of a period of temporary illness.

15 weeks & just starting to struggle now after a thankfully easy first trimester. I did wonder if it was a psychological change now that people know & are frequently asking me how I’m feeling, etc! But it really is more difficult.

It is important to persevere with work if you can, I think, purely because it would be better to spend your mat leave with your baby rather than before the birth, but maybe that’s just me projecting. It also depends what you do & if your job is physically stressful or tiring.

It's not just you. I'm 30 weeks and really feeling the strain at work. I'm a nurse and have to spend most of the day on my feet, to add to this my employers keep allocating me to jobs that are more physically demanding, and I'm really struggling what with tiredness, back pain and now swollen ankles. I feel pathetic though because most of my colleagues have all been pregnant before except they "soldiered on" and "did much harder jobs" when pregnant etc. Making me feel a total whiner.

I’m 35 weeks, so almost there but I’m with you. This is exhausting! I had sickness very early which actually kept me off work almost the entire time until I took early maternity leave. Thankfully my work have been very professional, although I’m sure it’s been awkward for them. My current problems are the remaining sickness, swollen ankles, pelvic pain, upset stomach, gestational diabetes- which I’m still able to manage through diet but I seriously miss cake! Or biscuits. Or chocolate. That said nothing is worse than the tiredness. So similar to everyone else I find the smallest things zap me of all energy. I have a long list of small jobs I’d like to tackle but struggling to even start one. Today I got stuck in the bath for 2 hours because getting out seemed like it was beyond my energy reserves. I guess it takes it out of us all in different ways. I’ve been told by everyone I know just to rest but sitting or napping all day seems counterproductive to health. Also I feel useless. We are growing people though. That’s a very impressive thing.

Yes, I am useless. I'm 11 weeks and have been having almost constant nausea for 7 weeks, I'm totally exhausted. My house is a mess and so dirty, I can hardly face cooking and it's really hard to focus in work. We're growing humans, we are wonderful and we should feel like machines! But I don't, I feel like a spotty, blubbery blob who is failing at being a wife, colleague and general human being right now. And DH continually makes comments about how little I'm doing, it's mean and it hurts. That's my rant. We're still all amazing though, human growing machines.

I’m nearly 22 weeks and for some reason have found the second trimester a lot harder than the first. I just feel like my energy is lacking.. no matter what I eat or drink. I’m hoping that’s because my little man is taking all he needs. It’s just really wiping me out!!
I don’t believe in the word should... we feel how we want to feel no matter how others may be...x