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I have recently found out that am pregnant, boyfriend and I are both so excited. He issue now is having to google almost everything I eat, what I apply on my skin (face & body creams) and what I should & shouldn't do. Boyfriend is so strict on these things, and today I applied a body cream and he asked if it was safe.........well........I hadn't googled to see if it was and he wasn't happy. So it turns out there's so much I need to learn and your advise ladies would be really really appreciated. Anything that can be useful during pregnancy, am only 6 weeks gone but want to do the best I can to keep me and baby safe. Thanks a lot & wishing everyone a great weekend!!!!

Not sure I like the sound of your boyfriend.

Look up the NHS advice page for foods to avoid (there aren't very many). Take folic acid. Don't smoke, and probably don't drink. That's about it... I really doubt that any body cream is going to do you/baby any harm!

I’d stick to the NHS advice and get your boyfriend to do the same.

Remind him that often there’s no point looking at foreign websites because the food safety is different (for example American women are advised against runny eggs in pregnancy but here eggs with the lion mark are fine to eat).
If you cut out everything that any website might say is risky you will risk not getting a varied diet (and being miserable!)

I was surprised that there actually wasn’t that much I had avoid, I guess because food safety and standards are much better now.

Ooft. Tell him to back off and then do your own research on NHS website. Nip the controlling in the bud now before the baby arrives.

As PP have said, stock to the NHS guidelines. I am 36+6 and only have one caffeine drink a day (coffee in the morning) haven't drank any alcohol, avoided soft cheeses and rare meat.

As far as body creams go? Slap on whatever feels good for you. Tell your boyfriend that you appreciate his concern for your child's welfare, but women literally have been giving birth since day dot. You can use a body cream if you want to, it won't hurt the baby.

The next few weeks your body is going to go through so many hormonal changes, you don't need someone standing over you and judging everything you are doing.

Totally agree with the other posters, boyfriend needs to back off. Is he always so controlling?

You should not eat cured meats unless the are cooked
You should not eat cheeses with white rinds like brie or camembert unless cooked
You should not smoke or drink
You should take folic acid
You shouldn't eat shark 😂
Undercooked meat is also a no go

The NHS website is the only website worth referring to. Ever. Otherwise you'll find websitess that suggests not eating anything.

The only creams they recommended you avoid are a couple of anti aging things because of hormones that can be in them but it's rare, a bit of lotion isn't going to hurt anyone! Your BF sounds very controlling and you would be best to nip it in the bud before baby is born. I'd google what is natural concern etc and what is clearly controlling behaviour, there will be lots of information out there. It sounds very much like you are not aware of/normalising harmful behavior. Hopefully I'm wrong but that's how it reads in your post. Good luck with everything

My advise would be to 1) chill out (both of you) and 2) follow NHS advise, not random crap you read on the internet x

The diet really isn’t that restrictive and I honestly didn’t even think about creams. I’d let your BF know you appreciate his support but there’s no need to be that gung ho about it.
If you get a pregnancy monitoring app (the ones when it tells you what to expect each week, how big baby is) that will have a search feature for food but you really just need to stick to the NHS!

Best advice: your BF sounds controling. Have a safe place to go in case you need it. Controlling and abusive behaviour often first comes out when the partner is pregnant.

I'm not sure if your bf sounds controlling or it is kinda sweet how much he's overreacting.

As people have already advised just follow the nhs website but in all honesty even if you do go and eat a bit of brie or non cooked cured meat you'll be fine. I just love cured meat. I cut down but i had a few naughty sandwiches. Baby is still alive and kicking. The food itself isn't going to harm your baby directly, is just the risk you might get food poisoning.

You can even have a glass or two of wine a week and your baby will be ok. I think they only advise no alcohol to make it easier for people incapable of otherwise moderating their intake.

Smoking however is still a no no.

He's concerned over body cream? You mean like moisturiser!? What has it got in toxic waste!! Tell him to shut up you will be absolutely sick of him before that baby arrives!!

Same advice as pp above!!

Tell him to cool the F down! Don't let this controlling behaviour continue. The NHS website has lots of good advice. There isn't that much you're not allowed.

As above, just read the NHS website. You can follow a pretty normal diet with a few things to avoid.

Maybe it’s just how you worded it but I would not be tolerating my other half telling me off for not checking certain things were ok in pregnancy.. Pregnancy is not an illness, you can live a normal life, use the same shampoos, moisturisers, nail polishes, cleaning products etc and you can still exercise and live life.. maybe just avoid rollercoasters and running marathons

I’d say maybe sit down and have a read of the do’s & don’ts together, then agree that you don’t need to be stressing about it anymore.. no constant googling unless you are genuinely concerned & certainly no finger pointing from your boyfriend!

Thank you all for the great advise. It's reassuring to read all your advise. Maybe it's the way I worded my post but boyfriend isn't controlling, he's just being overly cautious and that's okay by me. We rather be safe than sorry and thanks a lot, we will stick with the NHS advise.