Socialising whilst pregnant

[Lottie1990]

I have always been the social butterfly within my circles of friends and family.. but now I’m 22W I’m really struggling to enjoy even a family Sunday.. should I be worried? I’m going to a festival for the day tomorrow with friends and I’m dreading it already, if I didn’t have a friend from out of town staying I’d be cancelling. Any tips on how to enjoy socialising pleaseeeev

Are you tired or just not bothered?

Seriously, all I wanted to do was put my feet up when pg, I wouldn't get overly stressed about it, it's a tough and exhausting time!

It could be due to being tired, I’d not thought of it that way. I am a little worried I can’t seem to relax and enjoy a family Sunday. I have a big family and usually we spend hours chatting and playing games, but now all I want to do is go home. Thinking of talking with the midwife next visit about it.

That's probably a good idea.

Your body (physically and hormonally) is going through so many changes. It's not too surprising you might want to hole up at home more than usual.

Go easy on yourself and do speak to your midwife. Good luck!

Take your time with things & do whatever makes you happy. You’re creating a human 💗 I spent most of my pregnancy going to the cinema, reading, playing Nintendo 🤣 and binge watching netflix and movies, yoga! I’m glad I took it easy because now the baby is here it’s like a whole new life & I’ve never been so social 🤣

Why should you be worried? You are growing A HUMAN! It’s perfectly normal to not be as interested in what you were before.
Do what you want to do and don’t worry about upsetting others - of you want to cancel, cancel and do your own thing.
Your own happiness and comfort comes first. (IMO!)

No need to be worried, I think it's very normal!
Take it as easy as possible and don't feel bad about going for a lie down/going home early/dipping out all together and staying at home for some peace and quiet.

Oh I understand this OP

My DH was DESPERATE for a baby, as was my DM! All I heard about from the wedding day onwards was how wonderful it would be...etc!!

So now I’m 5+1 and DOWN with HG! Haven’t left my bed in what feels like weeks (about 10 days in reality) and where are DH/DM?...getting on with their lives ofc!

(In fairness DH is at work and out of house 6am-10pm - including this weekend!)

I am so unwell, so lonely and really struggling with my MH and nobody really gives a shit! I can’t socialise, I can’t go out I’m trying medication after medication that either doesn’t work or produces other horrible side effects worse than the sickness! DH is very sympathetic in the 20 mins I see him per day and DM simply has other plans... she thinks she’s being ‘good’ by visiting once a week 🙄

I dreamed that I’d miscarried the other night and honestly...when I woke up I was disappointed to be back in this living misery!

I love and want my baby so felt TERRIBLE about this but it feels like this tiny little parasite has taken over my body and ruined my life 😭

Its your first I felt like I had been hit by a truck when pregnant and after. 2nd 3rd dc was back to normal. Don't want to boost but.... 3rd ds had a home birth at 7am on August bank holiday then did a bbq that afternoon and evening for all the family and friends. Do what you need to do. Don't worry or panic. You really will be fine.x

Definitely make time to chill if you need it. People understand. I spent most of the first trimester fighting tiredness & trying to carry on as normal (I don’t drink alcohol anyway so that wouldn’t stand out) & now I am 14+5 it’s just not possible any more. I still have several birthdays, hen parties, weddings & random social events to go to, then Xmas, & not really looking forward to being boring & staying in/leaving early, but it is only temporary.

What specifically are you dreading about it? I am sure you know this already but make sure to take water, snacks, sweets, something to keep you cool/warm/dry depending on the weather, & just do your best.

I don’t think it’s anything to worry about, you are probably just a bit wiped out! Just take it easy & put your feet up!

I don’t think you are suddenly going to hate socialising from here on in.. but life changes a bit when pregnant & having a baby! You are inevitably a lot more knackered & have other commitments. All the things I used to love to do such as the cinema, weekends away, festivals, lunches/dinners with friends take a lot more organising.. I need to make sure my other half is around and the amount of times I’ve had to cancel due to a poorly or clingy child! But they become your priority

I guess my only thought is are you feeling ok mentally? That the lack of not wanting to do anything isn’t because you are feeling low?

I am currently 15+1 and really struggling badly with exhaustion. I've barely been out since about week 7 as just have no energy for socialising. However I do enjoy having one or two visitors over to the house where I can curl up in my comfy chair and just have a nice chat or a meal (and then have the opportunity to nap afterwards lol it's ridiculous). Maybe try to shift your socialising to having a couple of visitors over at your place so you're not having to travel and you can be comfy and relaxed, instead of forcing yourself to go out a lot? I'm sure people will understand :)