Worrying for daddy to be

[JadaMarie]

Hey guys,

I found out i was pregnant for the 2nd time last week. I miscarried at 6 weeks in May. I went back on the pill as we couldn't deal with possibly becoming pregnant straight away. I missed a couple of pills, doubled but but apparently...it was ant to happen.

I told partner about it the next day and he isn't happy. He doesn't understand how it could happen. He has said he is worried i have tricked him with it, by not asking the pill and saying i was....which i haven't done. He is just not happy at all. When we found out i was pregnant last time, he was shocked but then was happy about it. We aren't in the best financial position for a baby and i know that is worrying him...We have been together 6 years and this was on the cards for next year but not quite yet.

Has anyone else had this happen to them? has anyone else's OH's not taken it well?

newmomof1 Thank you so much :) It has made me feel a lot better.

That is really good to know. I have already planned that as soon as i can have the implant back, i am getting that again. I had it for 9 years and it was a dream! No worrying and no remembering anything.

thanks again

Glad he gets it now @JadaMarie92. I hope my questions weren't too probing, just thought you could use some help explaining to him how conception actually works. He sounded like a right arse in your first post but now it sounds like it was just a wobble. I don't judge you for missing pills as I've done it before- only luck and a possibly infertile ex stopped me falling pregnant myself. Best of luck with your pregnancy.

@Triskaidekaphilia No your questions really didn't phase me much at all to be honest. It was some other comments that upset me terribly as i felt like i had done something wrong when i don't think i have.

He does have his moments of being an ass to be honest but he seems much better now. It is a shock and i get it, i have been freaking out myself. Its a common thing to miss pills, i don't think there is a single friend of mine that hasn't missed them before. Hopefully everything will be fine once we calm down and things start happening. Thanks :)

Wow! There was me thinking these forums were for support... silly me... there is clearly some horrible people on here quick to put people down.
No one on this forum ever accidentally missed a pill ? I would say a good 8 / 10 of you have - I know I certainly have.

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage OP and I am glad to hear your OH has come to his senses. I genuinely wish you a happy healthy pregnancy

@Sparkle0109 So did i hence why i posted this. But apparently there are some on here that has never made a mistake, never done anything wrong ever and just cant wait to be judgemental. It's horrible. Especially as there are a lot of posts where people cant talk to others but still need advice and support.

Thank you. I appreciate it. Some of the nicer messages on here are what has brought me back. There are some genuinely nice people who can be supportive.

Friend got pregnant after a nasty bug in Egypt. There are many reasons the pill fails.

@JadaMarie92 I'm so glad you've been able to sit down with him and talk it through. It sounds like he's not a bad guy but things like shock and fear can sometimes bring out the worst in people. I'm so happy that you've both decided to go ahead with it together as that is so important! I've never miscarried so I can't identify with what you're going through but I am keeping everything crossed for your little rainbow baby

On personal note we had lots of plans too like going to Australia in November to see my Dad and I just got a new job as well so I understand how all that can be but there is time and who knows planning a trip with a little person in tow might be even more fun!

Ignore the awful people lovely, like @devilishlygood said so eloquently, heaven forbid those people ever make a mistake and have to stop being so perfect! Look after yourself and your OH, you're going to need each other over the coming months. All you have to worry about now is your little family!

Wishing you all the best and hope you can update us as you go! xx