Haven't been to the doctors yet

[csmw]

sorry for the long story and any spelling mistakes I'm tyling on my phone. So I got my BFP over a week ago now but still haven't been to the doctors yet. Me and my husband are happy but so scared, we already have a beautiful 8 mth old.

In May we had a miscarriage very early around 7/8 weeks on but for me it was quite stressful. The day we went to the doctors I started to bleed we were sent to the EPAU, who said I was in the process of a miscarriage and they would take some bloods to make sure my hcg levels were dropping. They actually doubled over the next few days and I went for another scan and clear as day on the screen you could see the sac. I was still bleeding but they said some women do and to try not to stress.

Me and my DH were really happy for a week were booked in for the midwifes and my scan and then I lost the baby the sac came out whole (sorry for tmi) but I never expected it to happen like that I was distraught again had to return to EPAU for a further scan to confirm. All this was happening 5 weeks before our wedding so I just ploughed myself into planning.

So here we are pregnant again and I'm so scared to go to the doctors, I'm not sure I'd cope if we lost this one as well.

How do you cope with a new pregnancy after miscarriage? Any tips for destressing?

I'm really sorry for your loss. For what it's worth, your midwife will want to do your booking appointment for between week 8 and week 10, so as long as you let them know in time for that I think you'll be fine.

@purplefig thank you, so I have a couple of weeks to build my nerve up yet then x

@csmw it's different systems in different places. Where I live, you contact the GP, fill out a form and they pass it on to the midwives who then contact you for an appointment - so it's quite a faff. My form ended up getting lost and I had to chase them in the end! If yours is similarly long winded, you might want to contact them week 6/7 to give them enough time to sort an appointment for you. All the best!

@purplefig here its slightly different I have to go to the doctors they refer me to the hospital and I refer myself to the midwife.

I'm just so scared the moment I do something will go wrong again:(

@csmw it's totally normal to feel that way, especially given you recently experienced a miscarriage. Ultimately contacting your drs and setting up your midwife will have no bearing on the outcome of this pregnancy, in fact it might even provide you with some reassurance, but I totally understand why you are nervous to get the ball rolling as it were. If you've just got your BFP I'm guessing you'll be around 4/5 weeks. So I think like you say, you've definitely got a couple of weeks before you need to do anything.

@purplefig Thankyou yeah 5 weeks 4 days according to my app. I'm just gona have to suvk it up and book an appointment with docs