When to tell people??!

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When do you think it's best to start telling people you're pregnant? coming up to 8 weeks this week and finding it hard to keep a secret! Feeing quite happy to let people know but wondered what other people think!

I personally waited to tell everyone bar one close friend until after my 12 week scan.

I've always told close friends and family straight away. I'm lucky that I've had four pregnancies and never had a loss but the way I see it is if I did, I would want people's support. Plus I can never keep my gob shut.

I think it's entirely up to you to decide when you're comfortable to, but to consider who you'd want to know if anything goes wrong (although I hope it doesn't!)

Last time, I dutifully followed the 12 week scan ‘rule’ and frankly, it was exhausting. I was unfortunately really sick and lying to my colleagues & friends & not close family was hard work. Especially my colleagues who I made up an entire story about a stomach ulcer & complications for the fact I was in and out the office like a yoyo!

We did tell my parents & other half’s parents from the get go.

This time, I’m telling anyone my sickness affects. I’m planning on telling work this week (I’m 7 weeks), a couple friends at the weekend when I see them and any family I happen to stumble across. I figure, if I was to sadly have a miscarriage, I’d tell them all anyway for their support & understanding of a difficult time.

I think it’s totally how you feel. There is no rule. I’d just consider how you’d feel if something went wrong.. would you want to tell your friends/colleagues etc. I’m a talker & very open about my feelings & my life, so I would but not everyone is the same..

Hello! I'm 7 weeks pregnant and am considering telling my close friends and family in the next couple of weeks. I'm sick as a dog and it's getting challenging to hide it for that reason.

Also the feminist in me wonders whether the "12 week rule" is really there to protect other people from feeling awkward if the pregnancy doesn't succeed, rather than to protect us pregnant ladies. Personally I would want those closest to me to know so that they could support me if anything went wrong. I don't plan on sharing my news on social media but It feels right for me to share with my inner circle.

Ultimately I think it's personal preference and every woman's situation will be different. What feels right for you?

@Wingingitsince2018 that's what we were thinking to start with but we did tell both sets of parents straight away 😊

@cookiechomper this is our first and it's all very exciting and we found out very early so feels like the first trimester is dragging! I'm in the same mindset with you in the idea that I feel it's nice to have more support even if (god forbid) something bad did happen 🤞🏼

@fromthefloorboardsup yeah definitely with you on that I think I'll see how my OH feels but it's definitely a winner for me to have people you can talk to whatever the situation 😊

@Bol87 totally get this! I'm getting to the point we've known since 4 weeks and it's exhausting trying to hide everything! Luckily I work for my dad and he has been brilliant and been very accommodating when I've been suffering with nausea etc but I feel like it will be much easier just to mention it now as we see people 😊

@BeachYogi hi! I'm so glad I'm not the only one suffering at the moment! I thought I was being a wimp haha but the nausea for the last couple of weeks has been awful! (I'm not normally a sicky person so I've been feeling rather sorry for myself 😂) I've never thought of the 12 week wait in that way but actually now you've said it yeah it does make sense!

I had to tell work as I've been really sick and it was pretty obvious. Hardest thing is my 5 year old ds doesn't know. We thought it best to wait until 12 week scan showed OK. But I'm getting a slight bump and it's still a week and half away and I get so bloated. I'm worried that I'll bump into someone and they'll say 'I didn't know you were pregnant! " in front of him. Plus he keeps asking me if I'm OK from being sick.

We told a few close friends and family as like previous posters I'd like the support. I think as long as you are both in agreement tell them when you feel ready. However if you're only telling a few and want it to be kept quiet until later make sure it's people that won't accidentally let it slip.

Congratulations 😊

I'm coming up to 12 weeks this week. Just want everyone to know already

Ive been telling my close friends whenever I saw them. I figure that if the worst happens, I’d want their support.

That and I can’t keep a secret and they’re very suspicious of me not drinking

This time I told people when I found out around 6 weeks. No big announcement but telling people when we saw them. Made point to see immediate family to tell them.

I also told work people as I was so exhausted and nauseous. Made it all so much less stressful.

1st time I waited until 12 week scan for family and friends and 16 weeks for work. It was really stressful.

2nd time I told people as we saw them from the day we found out again around 6 weeks. I miscarried but don't regret telling people at all.

This is such a hard thing!

I’m 5/6 weeks and have had to tell work as signed off with sickness. Same with parents as my DH was working a run of nights and I was sick/ getting cramps so DM stayed with me at night. DM was terrified she’d let slip to my gran accidentally so told her too and my DB told his GF (who is a friend of mine) as she knew I was really poorly and was super worried!

DH hasn’t told ANY of his family. Not even his mum or siblings. He says it’s just more phone calls to make if anything goes wrong. Which I can appreciate but to me it feels weird that we’d suffer such a horrible tragedy and not tell them.

Plus SIL is currently trying to organise a family meal in celebration of an event ... whilst I’m carrying a bucket around the house and sucking on toast for lunch!

DH says we should pretend I’ve got a bug and leave me at home, or tell them I’ve got food poisoning and go... but both feel awkward to me and I’d be more comfortable just telling the truth!

Thank you so much for all the messages back! I think I'm personally more comfortable now to tell people but just as and when we see them rather than a big announcement 😊

We told our parents and siblings straight away, along with our close friendship groups. We’re both awful with keeping secrets. Work I told at 7 weeks because I had severe morning sickness. If the worst had happened, all the people we had told would have wanted to support us anyway so we felt it was better to be open.

We're planning on telling friends and family after the 20 week scan.

Purely personal preference - there is no wrong or right time.

I'm lucky in that I've had no sickness and am only just starting to show at 17 weeks, so it hasn't been too hard to keep under wraps.

We've just had another baby born in the close family so wanted to create a bit of space for their celebrations before we share our own news.

Told my parents at 8 weeks after the second positive scan. Told FIL and my close friends earlier because I'd had a miscarriage before and wanted the support (plus FIL guessed).

Everyone else we've been telling as we see them from around 14 weeks which is when we got the NIPT results back and when it started to get more difficult for me to hide the bump!

We told parents about 8 weeks when GP confirmed it (first pg, they like to test too) and then everyone else after 12 week scan, I had my dad announce it at the a family party, at the same time he told them my brother was moving to the USA (everyone thought it was him and mum not me as mum was sat next to me when he pointed at me, she went very red)

I told my best friend immediately after I'd told my OH 😂 I'm awful for keeping my mouth shut. I told my boss straight away too, the rest of my team guessed and put me on the spot. We didn't tell his family until jus before the 12 week scan and only did it before because we were going for a meal for mothers day and there was no way i could hide it. (They are superstitious so wouldn't have told them till after the scan normally). I bumped up so early! So we got SS to reveal it to them. Told my family the same day, but they live miles away and we're not close. There is no hard and fast rule. Different strokes for different folks. My OH is way better at keeping secrets than me!