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Pregnant after miscarriage.

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JadaMarie · 27/07/2019 18:31

Hey everyone...
I found out I was pregnant in may. Ended up having a miscarriage at about 5 week. I was devastated. Went back on the pill as me and oh just couldn't start again straight away. Been taking them regularly, I missed 2 days but didnt have sex and doubled up when I realised. Suddenly.. my boobs were killing, I had stomach cramps and bits of nausea. Didnt think much of it but thought I would take a test just to rule it out. Its faint...but I got a positive. I'm beyond petrified. I haven't really gotten over the last one and I'm worried it will happen again. I have more symptoms this time than last time despite being about 4 weeks if dates are right. Anyone else has this happen? Did you have any ways to help you relax??
Thank you girlies.

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FairyDust92 · 28/07/2019 07:21

Can't offer much advice I'm afraid but didn't want to read and run.
Congratulations Thanks.
I hope you have a successful pregnancy and you get your rainbow 🌈 x

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JadaMarie · 28/07/2019 07:40

Thank you :-) I think I just need to try and relax. Worrying wont help at all. Smile

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Sparkle0109 · 28/07/2019 08:04

I dont have any advice but want to wish you all the best! As awful as it is, miscarriages are common especially in first time pregnancies. I also miscarriaged March this year and am now 11+3 have my 12 week scan booked Friday- I've been very anxious the whole time but found having private scans really helped to relax. I've had 3 altogether already.
Have you considered having a private scan ?

Try and relax and be positive, from what I have read it's very uncommon to miscarry twice in row.
Wishing you a very healthy and happy pregnancy

Mammalian · 28/07/2019 08:13

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers.
My first pregnancy ended after 6 weeks.
So the 2nd time round I had an early scan (at 6 weeks and 9 weeks), which was reassuring(ish). But to be honest I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd say I only fully relaxed way into it when I felt the baby kick!
I now have a beautiful 1 year old Smile

It's very common to happen the first time round as your body has no idea what's going on, but there's no reason to think that will happen again. Stay strong and take it week by weekFlowers

SquigglyOne · 28/07/2019 08:14

Congratulations Flowers
I also had a miscarriage at around 5 weeks in February but fell pregnant again pretty much straight away and am now 17+4.
I still worry every day but am so so happy - we found out yesterday we’re having a boy 💙
As @Sparkle0109 said unfortunately miscarriages are common but the odds are still very much in your favour!

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JadaMarie · 28/07/2019 08:39

Thanks everyone and congratulations to you all! It must be amazingfoung through it and it is going much better.
I haven't really considered a private scan but I might start thinking about it. I think where I'm feeling worse than last time and I have some implantation bleeding which I didnt have last time...should be a good sign. Well according to my friend it is anyway.
Thanks so much for the reassurance. Smile

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 28/07/2019 08:40

My dd had 2 early misses before 2 successful pregnancies, and is now about 16 weeks with no. 3.

Very early miscarriages are common, and will often mean that the embryo was not viable, so please try not to worry.

I read somewhere that around 1 in 6 pregnancies will terminate naturally very early on. In the days before you could buy tests - had to wait at least 2 months for a GP test! - there was no way of knowing for sure, and misses were often put down to a late/heavy period.

Ginmonkey84 · 28/07/2019 09:52

Did you test out your hcg from your miscarriage and did you get your negative test? X

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JadaMarie · 28/07/2019 11:53

Yeah I tested a few times after miscarriage and got negatives every time.

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Ginmonkey84 · 28/07/2019 13:42

Ah perfect I just wanted to check because a few girls on here hadn’t and they were really disappointed. I too am pregnant straight after a miscarriage in June. 7 weeks today and so far it’s going well. It’s so hard not to worry but amazing all the same. Congratulations x

Bubblebubble123 · 28/07/2019 14:49

Congrats, great news for you! And so exciting!!
I had a mc in Jan and was pregnant again by April. One thing that helped me to relax a little was to remind myself that it’s a different egg and different sperm so no reason why it shouldn’t work out this time. I’m 17 weeks now. I still worry to be honest and still check for blood when I go to the bathroom. It’s not easy and I don’t think I’ll relax until baby is here. But just wanted to say you’re not alone and it’s normal to feel a bit overwhelmed. The worry may not go away but the further along you get the more relaxed you’ll get. Best of luck with this one. The fact that your symptoms are stronger is a really really good sign!! An early scan would be a great idea to help you relax a bit.

ChikiTIKI · 31/07/2019 07:05

Hi :) congratulations on your BFP! And sorry for your previous loss.

I am in a similar boat... Found out on Sunday I am pregnant. Had a MC in December when I was 2 months pregnant.

Feel different this time already. I am SO tired and starting to feel a bit sick too.

How many weeks are you now? Xxx

IABUQueen · 31/07/2019 07:08

Ask for an early reassurance scan at 5 wks.

Wishing u the best xx

JadaMarie92 · 31/07/2019 09:03

Op here.

ChikiTIKI - Congratulations and sorry for December. I think i have worked it out that i am 5 weeks. How about you? My main thing is that my boobs are killing me, getting a little bit of nausea but nothing too bad. Hopefully it wont get worse.

I think i will get an early scan to make myself feel better as i am very nervous and scared about it. Hopefully that will help put my mind at ease. one of my friends is being so great and helping me feel better and reassuring me. She has 2 little ones so she is my go to lady for pregnancy.

Congratulations to everyone else! Flowers

charmedgirl87 · 31/07/2019 09:31

Your story sounds just like me . I miscarried end of May at 6 weeks.
Found out Friday I'm pregnant again!
I feel totally different this time .but obviously still worried x

JadaMarie92 · 31/07/2019 09:48

@charmedgirl87 I think it is a lot more common that i realised.

Congratulations on your news. I really hope all goes well with this one Smile

abbs1 · 31/07/2019 10:50

Please try not to worry. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks at the end of june and now I'm pregnant again with very strong symptoms terrible morning sickness already and nearly 5 weeks. Totally different to before my miscarriage when I had really bad cramping all the time. I'm really nervous but I just try to keep positive. Easier said than done. I'm having a scan in august as well to help reassure me. Fingers crossed for both our rainbow babies 🌈👶

ChikiTIKI · 01/08/2019 19:08

@JadaMarie92 AF was due monday night/tuesday morning so my best guess is i am about 4 weeks + 3 days.
4 days since i found out and i still cant believe it. i keep expecting it to go wrong :(

wondering if i should ask GP if they think i should have an early scan.
if they say no thats fine but i am not sitting through a 2 hour booking in appointment until after either a 12 week or early scan!

JadaMarie92 · 02/08/2019 09:33

@ChikiTIKI so you arent far behind me. Only a few days I think. It's not the easiest thing to work out.

I know what you mean. I am always worrying something will go wrong. I was very nervous yesterday as I had sex for the first time since finding out. On my last pregnancy, I discovered bleeding after sex and it ended badly. So was really nervous about it but it was all fine. I know sex is fine but just worrying that's how I would find out again.

Gp wont refer you for an early scan unless you have had multiple MCs. No harm in asking. I am considering it but I know I'll have to pay for it. So I am hoping I can relax about it but i doubt i will.

ChikiTIKI · 02/08/2019 22:03

Hmm yeah ok I will mention it. If not I will do blood tests, then 12 week scan, then proper booking in appt.

JadaMarie92 · 03/08/2019 07:52

Started bleeding again today... heading the hospital Sad

IABUQueen · 03/08/2019 10:13

Jada from experience, it is easier to refer yourself for a reassurance scan by going doesn’t to the hospital early pregnancy unit and requesting a reassurance scan due to miscarriage.

GP follow a protocol. But hospitals just look at availability and usually the receptionist isn’t as bothered

ChikiTIKI · 03/08/2019 12:53

Oh no @JadaMarie I hope everything it alright! Have you been checked over now?
I had some brown spotting this morning but it's gone now. I assumed it was all over. I've just got to wait and see I suppose. Xxxx

JadaMarie92 · 03/08/2019 13:20

I had brown spotting yesterday and it died down but there is some fresher blood there now. It's still like spotting, not heavy like last time. They said there isnt much they can do. I am too early to have a scan so just need to keep an eye on it and hope it doesnt get worse. Will be a worrying few days xx

ChikiTIKI · 04/08/2019 10:06

@JadaMarie I'm sorry you're having such a worrying time. I hope it will all be ok. It sounds quite different to your MC so that's a good sign. What plan have the hospital made? Are you going to go for a scan once you're a bit further along? Thinking of you xxxx