Did your DC1 become clingy when you got pregnant with DC2?

[HJWT]

Just that really, I have a DD who is 3 in sept and due with DS in Oct! Since around 12 weeks she has been super clingy! We have always been close as I am a SAHM she is a mummy's girl anyway but she literally wants to cuddle 70% of the day, Sitting on my bump and waking her brother up! Even when DH gets up with her now & again she refuses to go downstairs without me!

If your DC was like this what were they like when baby came ? 😁

YES!! My DS is just over 2 and always been quite independent. Sometimes affectionate but not overly. since I was about 4/5 months pregnant he’s been so clingy with me! If we’re heading out somewhere as a family he constantly checks I’m there and that im
Following if he and his dad are in front, always wants to hold my hand, sit on my knee, cuddle me etc and even cries when I go up to the bathroom. I’m not due til next Friday but slightly concerned about how he’ll cope with sharing his mum it’ll be interesting to hear other people’s stories of how their clingy toddlers dealt with a new sibling

@PrincessConsuelaBanana aw congrats make sure you come back and let me know!! DD cried today because "she wanted to see mummy" I was in the kitchen putting a wash on 😂 luckily its not that bad everyday but when she is tired its like 24/7 needs mummy cuddles! X

Mine will be three the week his brother is due. When we first started talking about the baby, around 20 weeks, he hated me. He’d spent the first months watching me being sick constantly and had to go to his GPs when I was in hospital with dehydration and DH was at work so it was like he suddenly made the connection between being ill and the baby. He'd cry when told to ask me for something like sweets or if I tried to bath him when DH was around.

He’s only really become quite clingy in the last few weeks (I’m 34 now). Wants my hand when out and only me at bedtime. He’s seeming quite positive at the moment though. He points out the things for the baby when people visit. We’ve encouraged him to talk to the bump and he likes to stroke it goodnight. Hopefully it’ll be fine when the baby arrives!

@AutumnGlitterBall I think my DD is going to be quite possessive over the baby TBH! Don't think I will get a look in! She is already telling DH "NO! My baby" 😬 xx

Yes (although bigger gap - nearly six years between mine - so clinginess/neediness manifested a bit differently). And still needed a great deal of love and reassurance when DC2 actually arrived. But having gone through all that - actually he’s adjusted fantastically well. He adores his little sister and is extraordinarily patient with her and although he sometimes still misses being an only child, he has really relaxed into our new family.

When you think about it, clinginess is such a natural response to the biggest change they’ve ever had to cope with - essentially it’s lots of different ways of testing ‘do you still love me just as much/ is the new baby replacing me’, I think.

Thank you @HJWT congratulations to you too ahhh that’s so cute she’s missing you when you’re just in the other room! Difficult sometimes but still so cute

My DS has always been fine with me holding other babies / toddlers and never shown jealousy at that, until I got to 4ish months pregnant and since then he gets sooo jealous!! Tries to pull the other baby away from me and cries etc - obviously I don’t let him and show him to be nice to the baby etc but he hates it. It’s like @NellWilsonsWhiteHair it is the biggest change they’ll go through so understandable it’ll be a bit rocky!

My DS also has a speech delay and is going through referrals for possible ASD so we’ve tried to explain he’s getting a baby sister but he doesn’t understand - he Defo knows something is going on though! I don’t think this sudden clinginess has come from nowhere.

I’ll defo keep you updated - when is your due date? X

Currently expecting dc5 (34 weeks)! Dc4 will be a month or so off being 3 when baby is born.
He has always been a bit of a mummies boy and still is. He has taken to cuddling up to my bump and resting his head on it. I dont think he understands that there is a baby in there though or that his little world will be turned upside down!