Hi all,
So today I told work I was pregnant. Generally speaking everything was fine although I was dreading it as I work in a private medical setting where my manger a nurse thinks she’s a mrs know it all doctor who does nothing but goes around diagnosing people and advising them. (Really anything) I don’t tell her anything that’s what my Gp is for.
So firstly she was shocked that I’m 20 weeks and then was asking me how everything had gone so far. I did the stupid thing of opening my mouth and actually told her I came back high risk after the combined test at 12 week scan so ended up having cvs done. I said I got the all clear and baby didn’t have anything like downs ect. She then jumped the gun as said she could still have downs. I was like I had cvs! Genetic testing! Tissue taken from the placenta! 99% definitive. Then she started stuttering and asked me how I knew it was a girl if my 20 week scan was tomorrow. I said cvs also looks at the sex chromosomes! And I had a scan at 15 weeks where without telling the snographer the sex determined by cvs she said definitely a girl. I felt like telling her to go back to university and that just because she’s a nurse and I’m not doesn’t mean I don’t have a clue what tests, meaning of tests and accuracy of those tests mean. That seems a-lot worse than how it was. She was happy while she say talking but I didn’t didn’t want to hear what she had to say.
Then she went and told the director of the company. Who said why have I left it so late to tell them! I was like I don’t legally have to tell you till 25 weeks so your lucky I’m telling you now. He was insinuating I should have said something at 12 weeks! 12 weeks might be fine for others but not for me who has has three miscarriages all at 12 weeks, which he knows. After the cvs I’m now under fetal Med having fetal cardiac scans. So again that first cardiac scan was just over a week ago.
I’m not telling anyone about my pregnancy until I feel it’s right and I’m comfortable. Especially after losses and having to have testing done.
Am I’m being reasonable to be as annoyed as I am !
Rant over thanks xxx