Please help.. 2nd pregnancy support needed

[Syra]

Hi I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with my second child. I think I’m around 5 or 6 weeks along. My problem is coping with the nausea and tiredness of the first trimester. I’m so tired and ill feeling already I could just lie down and cry. The thing is my daughter is 20 months old and lying down or sitting down isn’t really her thing right now.

Does anyone have any magic tips on how to cope with a toddler and pregnancy. I’m really struggling already.

I don't really have any magic tips I'm afraid, but I know how you feel; I'm 10 weeks with baby number 2 and I have a 13 month old. While it is still quite early for you to tell people, if you're struggling it might help for you to confide in close family members who may be able to offer you some support, perhaps taking your daughter for an hour or two so that you can have a lie down. Also, don't feel guilty about popping the TV on for half an hour if that is something which distracts her, it will give you a bit of time to just have a sit down and it is so important that you look after yourself. I have found that both these things have really helped make things a little easier for me.

Best wishes with your pregnancy, and i hope you start to feel better soon. I'm starting to feel a bit better now, so try and think that in another 4 or 5 weeks that you might be too

Thank you rose. Ive definitely been using the tv a lot more over the past couple of days. I just need to avoid the dreaded mum guilt for doing it!

Glad you are feeling better. I just need to remind myself that this will change and I’ll feel differently soon! Hope the rest of your pregnancy is easier as well!

I’m with you on this one. I have a 26 month old who is on the go constantly & doesn’t sleep brilliantly at night either. It’s not easy, I feel like a rubbish mum. I come home from work & she asks me none stop to play with her & all I want to do is lie down! On my days off so far, I’ve managed a small trip in the mornings when I don’t feel too bad & then basically relied on the TV and her playing with her toys by herself!

Thankfully my daughter is very attached to Daddy & he’s been fantastic. He’s doing extra night shifts while I sleep in our spare room for a breather & he takes on the bull of the play after work & at the weekend! I keep telling myself it’s not forever, hopefully I’ll be able to be fun mum again at some point in the second trimester!

I’d def recommences telling those who can provide support. Parents/friends who can maybe do a couple hours childcare here & there? It’s not easy but I’m hoping time will go a bit quicker than my last pregnancy as I’m so busy with work & toddler!

Same! I have two days off work with my daughter and we’d do a morning and an afternoon outing and I’d do things around the house while she napped. Im barely managing one outing and just surviving the rest of the day just now.

I’m definitely telling people a lot earlier than I would’ve. I’ll need help over the next few weeks.

Hi Syra I can really relate to the posts here. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and have a ds who will be 2 in a few weeks. Pregnancy is so much harder with a toddler! I’ve felt like a crap mum these past couple of months, he’s watched more tv than usual and we haven’t made it to many groups or activities. I second asking friends and family to help, even just a couple of hours break can help. Good luck with everything!