Low mood in pregnancy

[missrose0110]

Hi all, has anyone else experienced this? I have been on antidepressants before in the past which I feel like I brushed over when asked by my midwife. Last year I had a mmc which resulted in surgery and now I'm 30 weeks pregnant with a healthy little boy. There are other factors at play which I won't put on the internet, but I basically feel overwhelmed, constantly teary and have no interest in things. Which has resulted in me missing days at work.

I want my head to be in the best possible place for when this baby arrives so I've booked to see the doctor today.

Just wondered if anyone else has gone through something similar and what did the doctor do? Thanks in advance

I had this too. I wasn't expecting low mood before I had the baby. I'd wanted a child for so long I thought I'd only feel ecstatic during pregnancy but I felt very low throughout. I was also low during the first few months post birth then improved after that. I didn't see the doctor or tell anyone but I'm glad you are. I felt very happy during my second pregnancy.

@SallyWD thanks for sharing, it's nice to know it's not just me. We've wanted a baby for the longest time too and now I feel so low. Also, I know it sounds silly but I worry about bonding with him as I feel like I'm in denial about being pregnant. It's strange! Will see what the doctor suggests x

Don't worry too much about bonding. Don't expect instant overwhelming love. As I said I was quite low for the first months (sleep deprivation is awful). I loved my daughter and felt waves of love sometimes but I also felt guilty that maybe I didn't love her enough and why wasn't I enjoying motherhood? Basically I was quite miserable at first! For me the love was something that evolved over many months. I'd say by one year I could explode with love for her but it wasn't like that for quite a while. She's 8 now and absolutely wonderful. I'm sure you'll be OK in time. Take care and don't put too much pressure on yourself

Apparently it’s quite common and if you think about it it makes sense as your body gets flooded with hormones at a time of anxiety. When I say anxiety I mean even if you’re not worried about childcare, am I going to drop the baby there’s still always omg there’s a hundred risks here what about downs, stillbirth, etc etc.

So it’s normal.

Talk to your midwife. She will put you on to people to help. Don’t try to cope by myself as there is a whole team of people that can help you with this. I don’t have it myself but know someone who does and she’s getting lots of help.

By yourself obviously. Spell check is odd at times lol

@Karigan195 yes it seems perfectly logical when you put it like that. It's such a big change, plus all the hormones on top of regular life stresses, then the aches pains and heat. You've made it seem more normal, thank you!

@SallyWD it's so hard to not put pressure on myself. I feel like people are expecting stuff of me and I don't want to let them down. I feel bad taking time off work but I feel like I need to forget everything else and make sure me and baby are okay. My manager isn't the most understanding though.

I have a doctors appt in an hours time and will see what they say. I just wonder if there's actually anything they can do x

Hey!! I had this with my 4th child who was very much unplanned. People around me kept congratulating me and for months I pretended everything was ok when inside I just felt like I didn’t want to be pregnant. I had absolutely no feelings whatsoever for the little bump growing inside me. It all came to a head and i was diagnosed with prenatal depression. The midwife kept an eye on me and I was offered additional support. Luckily I didn’t need it. As soon as my wee man arrived and started to cry I had a surge of hormones and the love started. My relationship with him now is extra special. I would say we have the closest bond compared with my other children and I wouldn’t change a thing. Hang on in there and have a word with your midwife. It’s ok to not feel ok xx

I've felt the same, I had PND before I feel pregnant so I was still dealing with that, and then I also developed perinatal depression. I've got a GP appt tomorrow to hopefully get meds to help. But the midwives and consultants I've had have really helped me.