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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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week 6 and not feeling sick (worried about silent miscarriage)

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emeraldgem · 21/07/2019 22:04

Hi everyone, just joined Mumsnet tonight and just need to talk to someone as I haven't told any of friends or family yet that I'm pregnant.

This is my first ever pregnancy and I'm 6 weeks this coming Tuesday and I haven't had any morning sickness, but have had fatigue, currently got sore swollen boobs and constipated! Also have had no bleeding or spotting at all.

Recently I've felt less tired and actually well with energy, which made me wonder if I was still pregnant or not, which lead me to research miscarriage symptoms without bleeding, which was a big mistake as I came across silent miscarriage and now i'm terrified that I might have had one and unfortunately my husband can't help me with it as we've neither been in this situation before.

I'm frightened because we're telling his family on Tuesday our news and I'm worried that the baby has already died and we're making a mistake in telling them, however I've sent cards to my family to arrive on that day telling them that we're pregnant, so I can't tell one side and not the other.

I just want to know how others are feeling during early pregnancy and if i'm worrying unnecessarily. I just need some reassurance really.

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Quaffy · 21/07/2019 22:08

Bless you, first trimester is such a worrying time. Obviously I can’t say if you have suffered a miscarriage as sadly it does happen and only a scan will say for sure, but what I can say is I was like you in the first trimester. Hardly any symptoms and I was sure something was wrong - but my baby is one year old now .

I hope it works out for you, and the lack of symptoms isn’t a reason to assume it won’t. Come back and let us know how you get on

Shahlalala · 21/07/2019 22:13

I had no idea with my first, felt really well throughout. I thought it was a mistake and at 12 weeks there wouldn’t even be a baby and it was loads of faulty tests or something. DD was and is totally fine. (Currently pregnant with no.2 and sick as a dog all the way through...)

I know it silent miscarriage happens, but it is not very common. The only way to check is a scan really.

I had told family regardless, had the worst happened I would have wanted their support.

mummabubs · 21/07/2019 22:32

I'm currently TTC #2. With my first pregnancy I didn't feel any symptoms at all before my BFP (5 days after period was due as tests were all negative before that!) I can honestly say until I was 8 weeks I would never have known I was pregnant. Then the sickness hit and didn't leave the whole way through 🤦🏻‍♀️ Some of my friends went through the entire thing with barely any nausea. I remember the first trimester can feel scary because until that 12 week scan you have no outward signs that you're pregnant to go by. I know it's tough but try not to worry too much about 'how pregnant' you feel on any particular day. Hope all continues to go well 😊

Doyouavocado · 21/07/2019 22:38

I misscarried at 7/8 weeks last year but didn’t find out until 11 weeks. My boobs were so swollen and sore from the very beginning but then they just stopped at around week 7 and I remember thinking it was odd. Only after did I realise that was because I misscarried. You mentioned yours are still swollen so this is a good sign just try not to worry xx

FairyDust92 · 21/07/2019 22:44

Please try not to worry, I know it's easy to say!
I had no symptoms in pregnancy only heartburn in 2nd trimester. Other than that I literally had nothing xx

transformandriseup · 21/07/2019 22:58

I hope it all goes well for you. I didn’t know I was pregnant for 7 weeks and my only symptoms by then were darkened nipples which stayed hard even in the shower, a missed period and I was tired. By week 8 the tiredness was gone and I was in tears as I thought it was all over. I was offered an early scan and all was well. Try not to google too much during this time, although it’s easier said than done.

Is there anyway you could go to your doctor tomorrow and say you are worried about a miscarriage. If you get a scan this week it would put your mind at rest.

JuniperNarni · 21/07/2019 23:05

You are probably just lucky with the sickness. I've had hypermesis with my two children, I'm 29 weeks with my third and was sick a few times and that's it, was full of energy in the early days.

The first trimester is really tough because you've got no movements or anything yet. Could you book a private scan before your announcement if it would help?

Chuchu14 · 22/07/2019 08:49

I was like this with my first didn't have a clue how as pregnant until I was nearly 9 weeks and only found out by chance! He is now a perfectly well and happy little boy. I realise I was just lucky (didnt feel it at the time) now on my 2nd pregnancy and o wow dont I know all about it! Try not to worry, maybe if possible get a private scan early? The first trimester is weird as you have nothing to reassure you as such. You just have to trust your body knows what it's doing, we were designed to do this!

sprite25 · 22/07/2019 09:05

I know how you feel, I have 2 DCs already but I've had a Mc and ectopic in the past. Currently 5 weeks pregnant with no.3 apart from period like cramps I don't have any symptoms which is completely different to my other two pregnancies so am constantly worried that it's another MC. I have a scan booked for when I'm about six and a half weeks so hopefully that will be good news and help me relax a bit. Maybe try and get an early scan booked so at least you know either way

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emeraldgem · 23/07/2019 15:45

thank you all for your messages. I'm currently on holiday with my in laws as we had a wedding on the Monday, so wasn't possible for me to book a GP appointment as some of you had suggested. We have now broken the news to them all, we wrapped up packets of sweet pea seeds to give to them as presents as I'm 6 weeks today and the baby is meant to be the same size as sweet pea seed. They were all overjoyed, my FIL got a bit teary and told me he loved me as he gave me a hug which was lovely

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emeraldgem · 23/07/2019 15:45

Also I have been feeling sick today and had a few sicky burps so we'll see what happens next

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RudyRoo · 23/07/2019 16:23

I am 16 weeks and have not had a single bit of nausea. Don't worry about it, everyone is different.

Inthesky42 · 23/07/2019 21:34

I worried about silent miscarriage too as I had zero morning sickness. Focus on your other symptoms (painful boobs and tiredness!) I found these continued the whole way through! I'm now almost 20 weeks. If you are worried you could pay for an early scan. I did one at 9 weeks and it was very reassuring knowing there was a wiggly baby in there! Good luck x

cardboard33 · 24/07/2019 07:00

I went through the entire pregnancy without feeling or being sick once. I didn't really have that many symptoms at all other than a growing bump. Everyone feels it differently, you might just be one of the ones who doesn't get sick. Money permitting you could look into getting an early private scan just to ensure you know there's something there and it's ticking away nicely? We had one at 7 weeks on the NHS and saw a heart beat etc so was able to relax more after that, although did still ask at every scan (I had more than normal) if there was still something there.

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