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Telling work I’m pregnant - help!

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SarahBeth619 · 21/07/2019 20:55

Ok, so I found out last week that I’m 6 weeks gone (yaaay!) and I told my team leader who has been really supportive.

However, she’s retiring at the end of September and is pushing me for promotion for her job. Now the manager isn’t easy to get along with but seems ok with me so far, I just feel that if I get this promotion before my 12 weeks scan and then come out with my news they’re going to be really pissed. I also think if I tell her before she’ll come up with a way of hiring someone else (which I know is again the law but managers in the nhs have their ways!)

I’m totally anxious about it and my family and OH just keep telling me I’m being silly. My current team leader has also told me to stop stressing but I just don’t know what to do! Help!

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Bol87 · 21/07/2019 21:19

Oh bless you, it’s so hard with work.. I was pushed forwards for a promotion recently and I knew full well we were trying for our second. I debated it for AGES but eventually decided that pregnancy should not stop me getting a promotion I deserve. Maternity leave is only temporary. I got the job & im now pregnant. I do have a big sense of guilt in a way and I’m nervous to tell them in a few weeks time. But it is what it is.

I would say, if it’s your first, to think about your life when you return to work. I turned down an interview for a different promotion while pregnant first time around as I knew I wanted to go part time & that I’d rather return to work doing a job I was very familiar with while I settled into working mum life.

If you want the job, then go for it. They cannot take it away when you announce your pregnancy. You have no obligation to tell them. Or you could be honest if you feel more comfortable and still interview. They’ll have to be extremely careful with the reasons to not hire you..

TillyTheTiger · 21/07/2019 21:27

Go for it, and don't tell them. I did the same in your position, I was about 10 weeks pregnant at my interview, started the job when I was around 13 weeks and didn't let them know about the pregnancy until I was 22 weeks (it was winter so I was disguising it with scarves, layers and cardigans). By that point I'd settled into the job and was performing well, but there was still a decent amount of time for them to arrange maternity cover etc. It was definitely the right move for me as the pay rise made quite a difference to my maternity pay. Plus I deserved the promotion and I knew there was a good chance I wouldn't have got it if I'd have told them I was pregnant, although obviously they'd have given a different reason. No regrets.

Robs20 · 21/07/2019 21:36

I agree, go for the promotion and don’t tell them. I knew I was likely to be promoted and had to tell my boss I was pregnant (I was 17 weeks and according to my contract had to tell them by 16 weeks). I told him in the same conversation as him telling me I had been promoted. He didn’t confirm pay until later on and I am sure I was given a small pay rise because of the pregnancy. I am sure because the following year I miraculously got a 30% increase....
You have to look after what is best for you. And remember, most people would wait until the first scan at 12 weeks before telling anyone. Good luck!

WingingIt101 · 21/07/2019 21:43

Go for it!
I’m in the same boat (been pushing for the promotion for over two years and if it’s going to come off it’ll be on the coming weeks whilst I know I’m already 5 weeks!)

It’s understandable to feel guilt - I think that comes from loyalty to your employer / bosses but I’ve reconciled it with myself by thinking that I’m definitely going back after mat leave - can’t afford not to! And every penny more I can get will be money to support my baby - it’s no contest where my loyalties lie when I think of it like that!!

Congratulations - on both counts hopefully!

LoHe19 · 21/07/2019 21:46

I absolutely wouldn’t say anything. I told my boss I was pregnant very early on (small business so felt necessary to get the ball rolling on mat cover and we were close). Now I look back I pinpoint this as the breakdown in our relationship. They began excluding me from business development meetings, generally bulling and ridiculing and making it clear they really don’t want me as a working mum I’m a huge drain on them (I ‘only’ work ‘part time’ at 35 hours a week). I’m about to leave as I’ve had enough.

Not saying it’ll be like this for you!! But if pregnancy has no effect on how you do your job, you’ve got months ahead of you in a role I’m sure you’ll be successful in (esp if your team leader thinks so) and you’ll be an asset to them when or if you return.

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SarahBeth619 · 21/07/2019 23:05

Thanks everyone, I guess the reason I’m nervous is because I’ve just left an an area in the department because of an awful atmosphere (and I guess looking back I was bullied) and I don’t want this to happen in the area I’m in now as I’m enjoying it here don’t want to feel how I felt before (especially now there’s a little one to consider!)

Hopefully this interview takes place soon and before my 12 week scan!!

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SarahBeth619 · 07/09/2019 21:45

Hi all!

Just to update you; I told my manager and it went ok. I also applied for the job AND GOT IT!

Thanks for all your support, it really helped!!

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SuzieQ10 · 07/09/2019 21:49

Congratulations op!

Harriettenightingale · 07/09/2019 21:55

That's really great to hear!

GinTonic123 · 08/09/2019 07:57

Congratulations OP

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