6+1 anxieties

[mommato3]

I'm 6+1 today and trying to keep my anxieties in check. At this stage last pregnancy I mc but didn't start losing until 11+6, the day before my 12 week scan so now I'm feeling quite worried the same will happen again. Coupled by my Fitbit rhr dropping by 5 bpm over the last 10 days I'm getting paranoid. I have read that at 6 weeks this can happen due the body adjusting to the additional blood supply but I'm still managing to convince myself I'm going to lose this baby again....

TTC was an emotional rollercoaster and now these weeks are too.... we can't win!

I have a scan booked a week on Thursday. I'll be 7+5. Theory was if baby makes it past 6/7 weeks then all should be ok?? 🤷‍♀️ I just wish I could stop worrying....

I have no major symptoms, no food aversions, not a lot of nausea - moreso when I'm hungry or night time! My boobs are sore but that's it.

I need to somehow take my mind off these next 11 days before I send myself absolutely nuts!

I appreciate if it's going to go wrong I can't stop it but..... I don't know. I just feel so emotionally screwed up right now..... 😟

I could have written this myself. I’m six weeks today after having a miscarriage 6 weeks ago I got pregnant straight away so it’s all pretty raw still. I just want to get past the 8 week mark and have so many moments of anxiety creep in. But I try to remind myself that it’s completely out of my control and there is absolutely no reason why this pregnancy shouldn’t work out. I’m trying to stay positive and doing everything in my power to ensure I’m healthy. And that’s all we can do. My symptoms come and go and again I need to remind myself this is a totally different pregnancy and I can’t go on previous experiences. It’s so so hard but you just need to breathe and try and take one day at a time x

@Ginmonkey84 And that is exactly why I like this forum. So many people going through exactly the same thing at the same time, for the same reasons. It's reassuring to know we aren't on our own with our fears. I know exactly how you're feeling and just how hard it is. When I had my first mmc I too fell in again in 6 weeks and all went well. But for me that was 18/19 years ago, I'm much older now and always think the worst no matter what it is! Pessimism at its finest 🤷‍♀️

Fingers crossed for take home babies. As you say we have no control and I think that makes it worse. We KNOW we're doing all we can to try make things work out but...... 🤦‍♀️

@mommato3

I am in the same boat!! I am 7+4 following a MMC at 8 week scan back in March.

I have been a wreck.

The heart rate thing is ruining my life! Mine went from 66-68 to 76, but since 5.5 weeks has fallen to 71/70. I cry several times a day over it.

BUT. I saw heart beat at 6+1 and in the days before my HR had dropped 3bpm. So, fingers crossed, it’s not related.

It’s so difficult. My heart goes out to you. I really didn’t anticipate how emotionally challenging pregnancy after a MMC would be.

I got a bit obsessed with checking my heart rate when TTC to see a rise. Didn't have it on this month and conceived. Going to keep it off for the pregnancy and use a normal watch as don't think that heart rate info is good for anxiety.

Hi, I can completely relate - I had a mc in November, at 8+3, and in this pregnancy I found the first few weeks/ months agonizing.
I had a nhs early scan at my epu, at 8 weeks, and saw the heart beat, so felt a bit better...my nhs scan wasnt booked until I was 12+5 so I then paid for a private scan at 10weeks-ish.
So by 12/13 weeks I'd had 3 scans!! I know some people thought we were crazy but I needed that reassurance! With each scan I felt better, but I didn't really 'relax' until I was about 20weeks.
It really bothers me when people do big birth announcements at 12 weeks - only because I can't comprehend their confidence!
At 6weeks you shouldn't expect any strong symptoms - as its around 7/8 weeks that hcg starts to really shoot up and all the horrible (but reassuring!) symptoms start!
I've had a work colleague in this same station, so have been trying to be a shoulder to cry on. She's had no symptoms so was convinced it could be another mc, then Friday she vomited - she was 8 weeks that day so right on cue.

I'm now 28+6!

By best advice is to relax, and try not to google too much or symptoms spot...I rang m husband when I was about 7 weeks convinced I was miscarrying again due to really bad wind!!
Get an early scan if you can, it certainly made me feel better, once you get to week 8 and there is a heart beat there the chances of mc drop massively.

@Eggcellent29 It's just awful isn't it.... and these kids don't even realise a fraction of what we have to go through to get them!!!!
I'm sure it's not related to a huge extent to be fair it's just an extra symptom to fret about isn't it!
Good luck x

@becca3210 Yes I had thought about removing mine too but I like to analyse my sleeping.... maybe I'll look and see about turning the heart rate part off, I'm sure it can be done....

@sianyb83 I have a private scan booked for a week on Thursday. I doubt I would get one on the nhs before the 12 week scan as I've only technically had the one mc.

I will certainly bear what you've said in mind as it makes sense. It's just difficult not to worry isn't it, moreso after a mc/mmc.

There's nothing wrong with 3 scans before 12/13 weeks... left up to me I'd have one every week!!!! Thank you x

Hi OP,
I can completely understand your anxieties. I had an MMC which was only found out at 12 week scan and it was heartbreaking.

I got pregnant again in December 2018 and I have been an absolute mess the whole pregnancy. I had 3 scans by 12 weeks, then I've had 3 more since the 12 week scan, and now I'm 31 weeks with a little boy. If you can afford the scans I say go for it!

My very first scan with this pregnancy was at 7 weeks and they were so lovely to me at early pregnancy, I had a bleed which was one of the reasons I had the early scan (it was that, MMC history, PCOS, and the fact it had taken over a year to get pregnant again this time) but just try and remind yourself how unlikely it is you'd have two miscarriages let alone in a row ☺️

I've got everything crossed for you (all of you on this thread) and be kind to yourselves ♥️ xxx

Hi all,

Wow, it's so reassuring to read this thread. Thank you so much for sharing your stories.

I'm 5+1 after having a miscarriage at 8+3. It's taken us four months to get pregnant again.

It's really reassuring to know there are others going through exactly the same rollercoaster of emotions.

I think multiple scans are a really good idea and if we get that far we will certainly do that.

I've been worried that my symptoms are different to my last pregnancy and they haven't been severe enough, but I feel better knowing that other people's symptoms didn't start till much later.

x

Hi everyone! Im sorry to hear about some of your MCs and happy to hear about the newly Postives too. I was looking for some insights from you ladies who have carried children and anything that everyone is going through
I am 8 weeks today we had a HB at 6 weeks - I had most of the symptoms early on - my boobs have lessoned and so has the nausea- helped eating more frequently- I have never been pregnant before and I am 35- this is our dream I am just so scared...
at 6 weeks y HCG was 19,000 and progesterone was 8.9 I am on the the pills and my only concern is I hav had brown spotting for on and off a week and twice - pinkish when I wiped - but other wise - clear or brownish..
should I be worried? I know there is nothing I can do one way or another.. but I am always worried.. does this go away? Does worry eventually subside?
I have a scan Wed I am praying all is okay-
anyone else go thru this?

Hi @EPSpartyof3
I still have 9 weeks to go but when I was about 6/7 weeks I had a brown/pink bleed, had an early scan and was told it was implantation bleed and sometimes it takes a while to work its way out of your body (hense why it's brown!)

Try and think positive (so hard I know, I still find it hard and my due date isn't far now!!) And my mw told me at that stage worrying about things is just going through it twice (if the worst does happen) so just try and enjoy but it is really difficult. Got everything crossed for you xx