Sex in pregnancy after past MCs

[Keyboard91]

I know that the guidelines say sex isn’t a bad thing in early pregnancy unless told not too or there is bleeding, but what about after recurrent miscarriage?

I’m currently 4+2. I had a loss at 6 weeks in January (although comparing then and now something was wrong earlier than that) and then had a chemical in April. So far everything is looking more positive ... but I’m still anxious.

DP has a good sex drive (and normally so do I!) but I’m refusing him at the moment.

Have heard that some doctors advise no sex until 12 weeks in this situation but I haven’t had any input from GP/Midwife yet. Do you think it is OK to have sex in first trimester?

I've never had a miscarriage so i'm not the best one to answer but i did have bleeding and like you said the midwife said to wait until after 12 weeks, if you feel weary about it then just wait! Im sorry to hear about your losses

Ive had 2 miscarriages and although the drs told me it was safe to have sex i didnt, for me i just didnt want to risk having something to blame myself with if something happened if that makes sense.

If you’re worried, don’t as you wouldn’t enjoy it. You can still do other stuff to him!

Thank you. It’s really hard because I want sex (although my drive is definitely less than it was) but I also feel like I can’t until I’ve had a scan and seen that everything is okay. I also know women can bleed after and I think if that happened now before I’ve had a scan etc then I would completely freak ... but I also just want sex 😂🙈🤦‍♀️

What were your miscarriages attributed to? My fertility clinic and mw both said there was some evidence to support no sex if miscarriage / implantation failures might be due to autoimmune or cervical / womb abnormalities or infections. So I don’t plan to have sex until I’m in the third trimester.

If you’ve been tested and there are definitely no other problems then you should be fine to have sex.

After three miscarriages I consulted a top private gynaecologist (just saying this because he was definitely a real expert) and he advised no sex AND NO ORGASMS for me until after 12 weeks. I am now 26 weeks with a lovely healthy baby, it was incredibly hard to wait but it's definitely worth it!

@Keyboard91 Hi, completely the same as you.
2 previous mc. Me and partner have always had an active sex life. Currently 10 weeks and this time round no matter how much I try I can't seem to enjoy sex because of the worry so for now we don't do the deed, probably have 3 or 4 times in the past six weeks. We try to do other sexual things and this helps. My partner tells me often that he wants it but understands and I've just told him to pretend I'm on my period or something haha and what we would usually do when that is the case is other things.