reassurance please

[tess01]

im pg for 2nd this year, the other pg ended in mc, ive got my scan for this pg later this week and feeling really stressed about it. The last time i had a scan i was told my last baby had gone. I no its not helping that my edd for first baby is coming up in a couple of weeks too. Does any have any advice to help me get through the next few days, i really feel im driving myself mad, ive also had a constant headache and have not slept since i received my scan date. thanks x

Headache probably due to lack of sleep.

Canb't offer any more than a good luck, and we'll all be here if you need us.

Hope it goes well

X

Hi there! It is so scary to be pg again after a m/c, isn't it? All you can do is take one day at a time and try not to stress yourself out about it - easier said than done!! How far along are you? I'm guessing that your scan might be a 12 week scan which would make you about 10?

There is a thread in the Pregnancy section called Pregnancy after m/c which you might like to look at. You are definitely not alone!!

I had a missed mc, seen on scan at 12 wks then 2 mths later was pg again, now have a seven yr old dd. You just have to try to separate the two - really really hard, but the scan is very soon and they are two different pregnancies. Try to distract yourself.

Thx for quick replys

i am finding it so scary this time around and receiving my scan date has brought it home even more so. Yes im 13 weeks and this is the 12 week scan. Thx i will look up the thread, i do at the minute feel need to talk to others who understand the feelings that you go through

I found the miscarriage association helpful just for listening and empathising as I didn't feel able to tell anyone second time I found I was pg, at first.

I remember being really freaked out before my 8 week scan. I seriously felt like I was losing it and remember I started crying in the waiting room because I was so strung out... You fear the worst and it's almost better to live in ignorance than to have it confirmed, but at the same time, you also want the scan to reassure you that everything is okay. The 12 week scan was hard as well and the picture didn't move so I thought for a moment there was no hb... Emotionally, it is a very difficult time, particularly if you've had a mmc because the scan is bound to trigger those memories and emotions... I can't say anything much that would help, but there is no reason to think that your lo is not safe and sound in there... M/c are (unfortunately) really quite common and just because you've had one doesn't mean that you are going to have another... Fingers crossed for your scan!

Hi Tess,

ye, come and join us on the pregnancy after mc thread! It's normally quite busy there, so you shouldn't have a problem finding us.

I can only second Mumpbump. A lot of us have been there and know exactly what it feels like to wait for a scan and be 'convinced' everything will repeat itself again. But this is only a samll consolation if you have to go through it.

As for distraction: the thing that worked for me was renting and watching the entire 'friends' series. And that comes from sombody who hadn't gad a TV in 15 years. Somehow I could leave my current reality behind alittle....

Tess01 - as Mumpbump and Glimmer have said, you belong with us on the pg after MC thread - we have all been through it and it is so supportive to be able to talk to ladies at all stages in their pg about the feelings that you will have through your pg. Hope to see you there